Post # 1
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Sugar bee
My brothers memorial was last night and it was honestly a joke. There was a preacher who spoke of my brothers love for god because he was baptized at 5 (our parents made him and my brother was also a firm atheist) and then my selfish mother gave his eulogy pretending that she was actually there for him (she left when he was two and came around sporadically) she also took it upon herself to tell his beat friend that my brothers purpose in life was to keep her from killing herself and that he fulfilled his purpose. She also claimed that she knew he would do this and it was only a matter of time (funny because she did nothing tk help him and hasnt seen him in over a year) Basically, my week was horrible, I have a hard time accepting that my brother is really gone and I’m not ready to say goodbye to him.
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Aaaah hon, (( HUGS )) to you
Death sucks, no two ways about it.
And Funerals (like Weddings) tend to bring out all the nutbars in a family… and the worst in people
I am sooooo sorry you are going thru this
Please know that us Bees are here to listen anytime you need to talk, or a shoulder to cry on.
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
Maybe you could throw your own memorial for him. Go to one of his favorite places with your other brother, maybe some of his friends. Play some of his music and just talk about his life, what he meant to you.
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
@HonoraryNerd: +1 This is an excellent idea!
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
@HonoraryNerd: that is a good idea. We are all going together to spread his ashes soon so I think that will be a good time for that
Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
I am so sorry that was handled so badly. (((Hugs))) again
Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
I’m so incredibly sorry for everything that you’re going through. I really like HonoraryNerd’s idea!
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@Ninteenthchance: I am so deeply sorry for your loss and the sadness around all of it. I truly hope you are someday able to find some level of peace and healing. Very warm wishes for you.
Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
@Ninteenthchance: i think having your own private memorial would be a great idea. maybe you can release one of those floating lanterns.
Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
@Ninteenthchance: I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. =( *e-hugs to you*
I think the idea of having your own memorium for him is a great idea.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
I am so very sorry for your loss, & for this latest stunt by your mother.
You can honor your brother in your own way, & he will always know how much he was loved by those who truly mattered and cared.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
@Ninteenthchance: *hugs* I’m so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like it didnt feel like a memorial honoring your brother at all.
Sooo frustrating, but I bet your brother knows whats in your heart and knows how you feel. Just do something that helps you feel conected to him. I’m sure he knows your love for him and he will be with you in some shape or form for the rest of your life.
*hugs again* and sending support and strength
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
I’m so sorry that you’re going through all of this, and my thoughts are with you. I hope that you are able to have your own memorial for your brother and that you are able to honor him properly.
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
I’m so sorry for your loss & for what your dealing with. Finding a way to honour your brother in your own way is a great idea like pp’s suggested.
For me, I found the simplest things helped to remember loved ones like wearing their favourite colour, giving to a charity in their name.