Post # 17
Funerals are for comforting the living, not so much honoring the dead. If your mother needs to fudge the truth a bit (or even a lot) to be able to get through it all, then indulge her. People grieve in some very weird and random ways. None of these details will matter much once the pain isn’t so fresh, so don’t put your energy into them.
Post # 18
I am so sorry for your loss and for the way the funeral was handled. I think that @HonoraryNerd:
made a great suggestion. I hope that you’ll be able to grieve and honor your brother in a way that is truer to him and more comforting for you and your siblings.
Post # 19
I am soooo sorry for your loss. *hugs* You need to take some time and visit places and things that remind you of happy times with your brother. Ignore the reactions of your family. Their coping is not helping you at all and it seems to add to your pain. I’ve never been to a funeral that was handled with grace. It is very common and I am sorry it has happened to you. Everyones idea of a private memorial is a fantastic idea. *hugs again*