Post # 1
Thank you all for your kind words and support in my last post. Sorry I didn’t get to respond to them but I’m truly touched by everyone!
I heard the news on Tuesday and didn’t know what to do. I’m a 24 hour flight away from my mom and I had work and a deadline coming up. When I told SO he firmly said “Don’t worry about anything else, pack now and we’re jumping on the next flight”. I wasn’t expecting him to come with me as he’s in a tight deadline, also he’d be going to a country where he can’t communicate with anyone. So when he said “we’re” it took me by surprise, he might care for me more than I know…I was moved though and just bawled my eyes out.
Traveling took 2 days, I left adruptly but luckily everyone around me understood…I forgot to mail the check to my landlord, I had to send in my unfinished research to my boss at the University (my original deadline was Friday) etc.
When I arrived I went straight to the hospital…my mom was in the ICU (CCU) and looked so weak and sick. She was hooked up to all these machines and told me she was on pain. She could barely whisper out words but one of the first things she said was “Can you go choice the flowers for the venue on your own? There are a lot of things left that I can’t help you with now, I’m sorry.” It was so hard to hold back my tears…of course now everyone else in my family thinks I’m an insensitive Bridezilla coz whenever I’m not there my mom talks about my wedding. And when I’m not by her side (like my brother and his wife who camp there) coz I have wedding-related chores to go finish or work to do and send back to NY online, they hint in their tone that I only care about myself…Anyways everyone is here for mom not to fight so I am not picking fights or defending myself…but I’d wish they didn’t constantly make me feel like that.
The doctors can’t tell us how long she will be in the ICU…all we know is it’s bad…she most likely will recover but things will not go back to “normal” and her condition will be like a bomb waiting to explode.
I’m having trouble sleeping, worried and jetlagged so I found my old computer in the house can connect to the internet…thought I’d come back here to where all my understanding friends are!
Post # 3
we’re all thinking of you & sending you lots of love, prayers and support!
Post # 4
I’m sorry to hear about your mom. I’m sure that the doctors are working on what is best for her. I hope she starts to feel better soon.
Post # 5
Oh goodness….I am so sorry. It is great to hear you have a wonderful support system and that everything you had to leave unfinished will work out. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! Hugs!
Post # 6
I’m sorry to hear about your mom, that has to be so hard… My thoughts and prayers are with your family!
Post # 7
I’m so sorry, I’m sending out positive thoughts for your mom. Don’t worry about your brother, everyone is just on edge now and theyre just being judgemental because of everything that’s going on. Of course your mother still wants this wedding, and no one should be mad at you for trying to still make that happen. Keep your chin up, and don’t let them bring you down! And feel better Scarlet’s mom!
Post # 8
having been through a semi-similar situation, just know that having something positive to look forward to and get better for (your wedding) is so important for your mom, and even if others don’t understand that, you moving forward in your plans and talking about your wedding with your mom is probably one of the best things you can be doing for her right now. it is clearly so important to her and it sounds like she would be devastated if you put your plans on hold. my mom is in a situation similar to what you described–in that she got better but will never be “normal” and will always be at high risk of getting sick again–but it has now been three and half years and things are going better than ever–so there’s hope 🙂
sending lots of good thoughts to you and your family.
Post # 9
I’m glad that you have updated us & you are with your mom. I know it is hard, but I am glad that you are there. It is good to share good and happy things with her, including your wedding plans. I am sure that everybody is in the same situation that you are in right now-so don’t take anything personally from family members. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you, your mom and your family.
Post # 10
Ms Scarlet, I am so glad that you updated your post! I’ve been so worried about your mom and kept checking … I am glad that she will probably recover! I would tell your mom not to worry about anything except for getting better, maybe even hire a in-state wedding planner so she won’t stress about the details. I’m sure that knowing that your wedding is just around the corner will be enough to motivate her to have a speedy recovery. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Post # 11
I’m sorry to hear about your mom…I hope she has a speedy recovery.
Post # 12
Ms. Scarlet, I’m sorry your mom has experienced this emergency situation and wish for her an uneventful recovery.
Post # 13
Ms. Scarlet! I am so sorry to hear what you`re going through with your mom, and how unfortunatehow your family members are making you feel
Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent
Post # 14
I am thinking of you and your family. My father had a stroke and it changed our lives completely. He is doing better but had to learn to read, write, and speak again… few months of therapy worked wonders. I really hope your mother is on a the road to recovery much faster than you think.
And just remember, your mother loves you. Forget what everyone else is saying, as you know she is more important to you than your wedding. (Everyone blames someone for something) She may talk about your day because you are her daughter and she is happy for you. It is something for her to look forward to! Keep that smile and be strong girl… xo
Post # 15
I hope that you and your mom are doing well.