- 3 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Iim pleased to report good updates. Over the last two weeks things were hard. I wanted to breastfeed but considering my medication no doctors would tell me if I could until my baby was six days old. I got a double electric pump and a nipple shield but nothing seemed to work. For a week I was pumping and it hurt like crazy. The shield did nothing and I was ready to accept that I would have to exclusively pump. I have “flat nipples” which complicated things even more. Painful letdowns accompanied by a homesick feeling.
Today though at my daughters two week check up the ped. Helped me (I have been seeing lac consults all week) and almost instantly my baby latched on without the shield, on her own the right eay and stayed latched for nearly 20 minutes. When the ped left the office I tried switching sides and she latched right away! I’m so incredibly relieved! The pump really helped build up my supply and helped the flat nipple issue. Ehich is good long term for DH as well, I always felt a bit insecure that my nips didn’t harden much.
More news to report, the fleas are gone and after two weeks our fur babe can finally be let back inside. We also had our airconditioner fixed yesterday which is thrilling! The day I brought my baby from the hospital our ac broke and mom let a stray cat in infesting the gouse with fleas. I wad a wreck from all of that streaa. Now its taken care of!
And fof the family issues… they are still there but using breastfeeding as an excuse is working. I didn’t want people to know I was breastfeeding, it seemed too personal. But saying “no visitors right now, I have to bf” has seemed to keep most visitors from popping in. When they do I grab up the baby and take her for some skin to skin time in the room. Bonding time and I don’t have to worry about entertaining.
It has been an insanely stressful two weeks but I’m happy to report most things are looking up again. If only we could settle the issue with my inlaws and things would be perfect.
In short MIL and FIL have been on our case non stop for two months. Saying we aren’t doing enough, not good enough pretty much, nit picking everything we do making DH feel like crap. Dh is at his breaking point with them so I stepped in expressing my concern to MIL that DH is ready to pull away from them and I dobt want that to happen. She accused me of saying things I didn’t say and ended with “we are tired of walking on egg shells around you two. When you are ready to talk you know where we are.” We are the ones constantly on egg shells never good enough. We are doing good but they look for problems that aren’t there making us have our guard up around them. Like MIL says last week my six year olds teacher said she was the smelly kid in clasd, that teachers were talking and talking about calling cps. MIL insists we don’t ecercise ptoper hygeine although I get my kid ready for school every morning and she is always clean and neat. Confused by this I went to confront my kids teachers only for them to all be confused saying that’s far ftom the truth and was the first they heard it. I looked like a fool. DH confronted MIL and het response was only “I guess I should keep my nose out of it.”
Because my six year old goes over there dirty after school and playing outside for two hours, MIL just assumed my kid went to school dirty too. She creates false ideas and nit picks everything but says they are the ones who have to watch what they say.
I asked if everyone could take a few days to think about what has been said and we get together to talk in a few days. That’s when she put the blame on us saying when we are ready to talk (ie: when we are ready to sit through an unfounded lecture without defending ourselves) we know where they are.
DH is ready after my failed attempt at getting through to MIL, to cut the strings. His family are really good people, they are just too stressed and anxious over things that aren’t even real. I don’t want them cut out but some of the things they have said to DH are unacceptable and I stand by his decision. So if you have any advice on how to handle that one I’m all ears. The advice on fleas, bf, and boundaries have all helped tremendously.