Post # 1
So I went to the appointment with my Fiance this weekend. He agreed that this photographer is amazing and we needed to find a way to make it work.
After all of us talking, we’re doing 3 hours of photography, he won’t include travel time from the ceremoney site to the reception site, and 1 of those 3 hours will be at the reception. He’ll snap pictures of our entrance, then while the guests eat he’ll get pictures of our “Faux cake cutting”, “Faux first dance”, then shoot the guests a bit and leave.
Here’s my issue: We’re doing a first look.
I think it’s the best of both worlds. We’re doing a first look becasue it saves time before hand AND Fi really wants to do one. He said he’s going to be a nervous wreck that day and he’d be more likely to let out his emotion if it were a private moment then in front of 70 people
Does this count as “Seeing my groom before the ceremony?” I feel stupid, but I’m a bit worried about it.
Post # 3
Don’t worry. 70% of my clents do it. None have ever regretted doing it. Almost all who haven’t said they wished they would have. That superstition was created by people who were arranging marriages. It’s just hokum!
Post # 4
The whole idea comes from a time where brides were considered property.
The man is given a dowery to pay for the bride (since women are such a burden ::insert sarcastic eyeroll::). The man is not allowed to see the bride before hand because it could cause him to change his mind about marrying her. The bride is presented to him with a veil in order to further obscure her looks. The first time he gets to lay eyes on the girl is after the ceremony when it’s too late for him to back out.
I will be doing a first look and skipping the veil.
In this day and age, they’ve found that seeing the bride before hand easing a lot of cases of cold feet and wedding day anxiety. Just being able to see and touch your significant other eases your nerves so the wedding day is more enjoyable.
If it is very important to you that you keep the tradition, there are ways around it. You and stand on either side of a wall, hold hands, touch, pray together, etc.