- 5 years ago
I want to start with saying I’ve only been with SO 6 months. I’m 33, he’s 37. Both want kids. I KNOW it’s too early to talk about “us” doing the kid thing together. When we talk about marriage and kids, it’s always in general terms. I want to say that before I get remarks like, stop pressuring him, what’s the rush, etc. I’m having kids with or without him, so if things don’t work out, not the end of the world. There’s no pressure. If SO looks uncomfortable when I bring things up (which is the norm), I drop it.
Anyway, last night I asked what’s the oldest he would be before he decides he’s done having kids, and he said 40. He will be 38 in March. It’s clear that if he and I were to work out, it would have to be one child for us. Thats fine. But I’m kind of glad I got a solid answer, because a normal human being who wants kids wouldn’t string someone along if they wanted kids in less than 3 years. I think I can relax a little!
Unless he changes his mind about wanting kids period,which is something that happened to me twice before with 2 exes. They were 34 and 36 at the time they said this, and still are childless and happy!