(Closed) UPDATE on DH and I…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

That is good to know you’re making progress!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@texasbee:  Glad to hear things are getting better.  Best of luck to you both!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

That’s alot of progress!! Are you both going to keep going to counseling?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@texasbee:  This all sounds like really good progress. Good for you guys for trying to resolve your problems and work on your marriage- not everyone has the strength of patience for that, and it’s really admirable! I hope things continue to improve. 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I would find a date/time to go to counseling on your own. There are things you need to do for yourself to heal, and I actually think its pretty manipulative that he insisted on going. My ex did that because he was convinced the counselor was going to tell me to leave him! Its great that he’s open to going together, but please make some one on one time for just you and the counselor.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@ellebeerob:  this.

 

@texasbee:  this truly is a great update but you do still need to go on your own to help yourself heal. Healing as a couple and healing as individuals is two separate things. And you need both.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i’m glad things are getting better for the two of you.

 

@ellebeerob:  i totally agree.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Glad to here that there is progress as a couple. As to @ellebeerob: point I totally agree. I think going to counseling solo is something that everyone can benefit from. There are issues that you are able to hash out to neutral thrid party, that sometimes youdon’t want share with an audience. Getting myself a therapist was one of the best decisions that I ever made in life. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

BIG HUG to you and your Darling Husband because he loves you and wants to have an open and honest relationship. This will only get stronger and better overtime. You both deserve a whole relationship built on trust, commitment, and love.

Congrats on the progress you two are making because it takes TWO to make everything better.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@texasbee:  I’ve been following your posts and I just wanted to wish you and Darling Husband the best of luck.  I think it’s fantastic that he is being so agreeable and involved with the counseling. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@texasbee:  Im not sure why you are worried about your husband convincing his coworker that you aren’t just someone with “issues” or why you even care if this guy actually gets what the real issues are or not. Why your husband is even talking in such detail with coworkers about your relationship is beyond me. Maybe one, one who is supportive and who can offer useful advice and possibly help be a friend who can guide your husband from a male perspective. But really he should not be discussing things at length with people who obviously think very little of you. To be honest I would be upset my husband even kept someone like that around given the situation. If he works with him, he can be cordial and professional without being too close.  Everyone he associates with doesn’t have to be your biggest fan but they also should not be allowed to insult you or put you down in any way.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@texasbee:  We have a rule at our house that might be helpful to implement: No negative talk about your spouse (or your marital problems) to anyone EVER – unless they are a third party intermediary such as a pastor or counselor. There are people out there who mean well but are crappy influences or crappy spouses who can influence your Darling Husband (or you) negatively.

I wish the very best for you and I’m so glad you are taking time to go alone. I’m also happy your Darling Husband realizes the value of your marriage and your value as a wife and is putting in the effort to go too. {HUGS}

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