(Closed) UPDATE on “How do you deal with this” – Now how to deal with this!?!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I read the previous post yesterday. Sorry, it’s a really hard situation. I think you just need to push him to get therapy. Other than that… no advice. *hugs*

Post # 5
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Satan and Sin is the enemy… not him…. He’s just lost… lost in his heart, in his tradgedy, in his hurt, in his guilt. I don’t know how to tell you to love him “right”

But I will continue to pray for him and for you and your family. All involved so that this can be turned for good, can help strengthen and help those around watching in how to love in new ways and continue to encourage each other. ((hugs)) for your being at a loss and frustration

Post # 6
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Is there any way he can be involuntarily committed since he is threatening to take his own life?  Maybe they can do that to at least get him into therapy.

Post # 8
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


I’m not sure if he is also in Alabama.  It can be hard if you aren’t living in the same place.  Here at least, you can call 911 and tell them that the person is suicidal.  When the ambulance arrives you would tell them that you want to do the paperwork to petition the person (that way they can’t fake well and avoid being admitted).  If the doctors at the hospital feel that the person is no longer a threat to themselves/someone else, the person can be released.  likewise, if they feel he is still a threat to himself they can hold the person indefinitely.

Post # 9
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I feel horrible for you having to watch this. At some point people need to stop buying him things- this is manipulative behavior. If he is unwilling to get help and you can not have him commited it will be difficult to stop him from doing what he wants. My heart goes out to you.

Post # 11
3267 posts
Sugar bee

@Corilee13: You cannot control him or his reactions, only your own.  Yes he just experienced a loss, but being an asshole isn’t how you deal with it.  Loss isn’t ever an excuse for threatening to call suicide, or stealing from family or any other type of terrible behaviour.

I would sit him down and tell him that you are concerned for him, and that from this day forward you will take his treats seriously, and call the police every single time he makes such a threat.  Police will take action if someone is a danger to themselves or someone else.  Put him on a mental health hold and have him evaluated.

Placating him isn’t the way to go.  It doesn’t do anyone any good.  He obviously needs help, and you guys would all benefit from counselling as well, to learn how to deal with this situation.

Post # 12
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Corilee13: it isn’t a concrete solution, but it might help to recognize that anger is almost ALWAYS a secondary emotion – meaning that it results from not dealing with other emotions properly. He is hurting, pushes his hurt down, and anger comes out as a result.

If he is threatening to hurt himself, you (or his parents) may be able to check him into a mental health facility against his will.

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