Post # 1
Ok so here’s the situation, I know he has the ring he had it delivered about a month ago. I was convinced he was going to propose on our mini break in the middle of last month…..but nada! I’m just getting so frustrated!! Our timeline was before Christmas – I’m starting to think that he’s leaving it as long as possible…..is anyone else going through this? 🙁
What makes it more annoying as well, is that he comments on venues ALL the time! While I’m just trying to keep quiet about it until it actually happens!
I know that I really shouldn’t be getting myself upset and worked up but I really can’t help it. Any advice bees? I’m going crazy 🙁 xx
Post # 3
I felt like that too at some points, and I think it’s not so much as wanting to postpone as long as possible, but wanting to wait for a “right” time or the “perfect” moment, or to have the proposal hammered down just right so that your Boyfriend or Best Friend won’t feel bad about it, and as if it’s not “good enough.”
He is clearly commenting on venues and such because he wants to marry you — but a proposal is kind of a big deal. You will talk about this moment to your friends and family, and remember it for the rest of your life. I think he’s more concerned about the proposal going well, and it has nothing to do with wanting to drag it out.
Post # 4
@elle_z: Thanks 🙂 That does make sense! He’s a total perfectionist, I know he’ll want to choose the perfect moment. It’s just so hard waiting – I don’t know about you but it seems to have taken up quite a bit of my time! lol. I think I’ll just need to try and keep busy to keep my mind off it for now, otherwise I’ll drive myself nuts! :S
Thanks again for your insight 🙂 x
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2014 - Vegas baby!
My SI is the same way, wants to wait until the PERFECT time. We have (almost) picked out a ring, but he’s been planning the proposal for um, like 2 years now! He’s so concerned about it being perfect, and I’m just like, anywhere anytime babe!!! haha, it sucks waiting, but is well worth it 😉
Post # 6
@Peanut2012: My sister is in a similar situation… I saw someone had posted this article in the “waiting” board, and I sent it to my sis, who found a lot of solace in it. Here it is: http://apracticalwedding.com/2011/09/he-wants-to-marry-you-engagement/
Christmas is so soon! Girl! Don’t get too hung up on waiting, cause it will be here before you know it!!! Try to enjoy these last few days as a girlfriend… SOON you’re going to be a fiance, and I bet it’s going to be an amazing proposal that’s totally worth the wait.
Post # 7
After being together for over 4 years, my Fiance and I went and picked out my ring in February. We went together, made sure of the size, cut, clairity, cost, etc. that we both wanted. We put my ring on layaway that day! Then, in April, he sent the ring to get sized and it was done 4 days later for him to pick up. He didn’t propose until the end of August!!! I had to wait all that time knowing exactly what I wanted, and exactly how close it was! I even knew that it was in my house (no, I didn’t look hehe). He said he wanted to do it when it was exactly the right time, and it was 1 MILLION times worth the wait!!
Don’t be discouraged with how long you wait, it’s because he wants it to be perfect! And, trust me, it’s so worht it 🙂
Post # 8
Maybe he wants a Thanksgiving proposal? Maybe he just wants it to be perfect? Maybe he still wants u to be a little surprised? Enjoy this time. Things are gonna get crazy once ur engaged. Enjoy the anticipation and excitement that it’s coming.
Post # 9
In all honesty, you want to leave it as a surprise – so the more you DONT bring it up the quicker he’ll ask. If you gave him a timeline, he’ll respect that! There’s only a month and a week leave until Christmas anyways!
Be patient and you’ll be greatly surprised/rewarded.
Post # 10
Thanks for all your kind words and support ladies 🙂 I really appreciate it.
MrsVanilla: Thank you so much for this…..it really did help. It made me think that I’m being so imaptient and that I really just need to relax about the whole situation! I must say that I’m glad other women feel the same way as I do. Thanks 🙂 xx
Post # 11
lol…my fiance made me crazy, but in the opposite direction. He would casually say “Will you marry me?” when we were like, cleaning out the garage. Or in the car…or making up the bed, or having sex…I would get so mad and say “you cant ask me like that!” Finally, he took me out to dinner to a beautiful restaraunt for my bday. Over dessert, he asked the “usual question”. Something about that moment, and the look in his eye, told me that he was serious and he meant it. So finally…I said yes : ) Its not the most romantic story…but it is SO “us”.
Post # 12
Me and my husband decided that we were going to “look” at engagement rings. I was leaving in a month and 1/2 to do a 6 month tour overseas and I knew that he was going to go engagement ring shopping while I was gone. So we thought it would be best to go out and get some ideas. Well it turned out that the jewerelly store had some awesome sales and we ended up buying my ering/wedding band set. We got it back from sizing a week later and he waited until I was about to go thru security at the airport to propose. He held onto it until the last possible second. I was so frusterated until the time that he proposed. At that point I thought that he was going to wait until I was on leave to propose.