Post # 1
I am moving in with my sister while I get well and to pay off debts before I find my own place. I have 2 weeks left on the rent I already paid to J and gave first and last moving in. I haven’t told J yet because I want it to be a quick process between breaking up and moving out. Better for us both I think. I can give him 30 days and just move but I kind of want that last month back and he isn’t hurting financially and I’m not on the lease. Should I cut my losses and not bring it up or should I say well it’s the least you could do since this didn’t work out and I need the money?
All advice appreciated!
Post # 3
I am sorry you are going through this tough time – there will be a happier time in the future for you, I promise!
Personally, I would make this breakaway as swift and as clean cut as possible.
It will be a loss to you and yes he could probably pay you what you are owed, but do you really want to go through the friction of bringing it up?
It would be best for both of you to carry on as you are – as best you can without adding aggrivation that you do not necessarily need to go through.
Best wishes xxx
Post # 4
I guess I’m just feeling weird about all this. I wish now that I had listened to my gut and not moved in with him in the first place.
Post # 5
@spaneshal: I agree that you should make a clean break. I would not bring $ up…just move out and move on. If he offers to pay you back on your deposit, then take the $ back for sure. And thank goodness for sisters!!! I have had to move in with mine before when a relationship went south! Good luck to you!!
Post # 6
*hugs* I looked at your history and yes- it is time you moved on, he has been stringing you along for more than a year now- I am so sorry it had to come to this- you deserve better.
Post # 7
Quick and clean.
You are so brave and deserve so much more, keep updating us!
Post # 8
I think you can ask for the money. If he doesn’t give then, he doesn’t give it.
I’m sorry you’re going through this, but congrats on taking control of your life and trying to get happy 🙂 I know that things will get better for you soon.
Post # 9
Awwww thanks for the kind words ladies. I’m not trying to be greedy or anything but I am the one who has to uproot my life again. That’s not his fault though. He is not generous so he won’t bring it up if I don’t. I’m telling him in about 2 weeks which is what I’ve paid up until and I’ve just been ignoring him. He went out Saturday and then all day Sunday until 2:30 a.m. and so it’s been easy to avoid him. I mistakenly tried to talk to him calmly about the state of things on Saturday evening and he didn’t like it and left. That’s okay because it solidified the fact that I’m leaving.
Post # 10
I say if you really need the money make him give it to you. You are right you had to uproot yourself because he wouldn’t keep to his promises.
If you don’t make a clean break and move on…I wish you the best. I’m sure this has to be really hard for you.
Post # 11
Good to hear you are sticking to your guns and finding support in your family. Money is so secondary to your peace of mind, though if you need it you shouldn’t hesitate to ask for it.