Update on my last thread, please no fighting I just want opinions

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
682 posts
Busy bee

Wishy-washy people are annoying. Even if he is telling the truth, he sounds too busy to have a relationship. I dont think you should text him again.

Post # 32
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I did this same thing to my Fiance when we first started dating! He asked me out after we met at a mutual friend’s dinner and I said yes… but then I couldn’t actually schedule a date for almost 2 weeks because work was CRAZY busy (like 60 hours that week) and then I was flying out for a business trip.

My Fiance was a little annoyed, but thankfully we got our first date sorted out after that. 

I would say just wait and see if he calls to schedule something with you when he gets back.

And having been on the other side – while it’s frustrating on you to have to wait – I have empathy for someone who is taking their career and responsibilites seriously and just can’t be available for social events on short notice. 

Post # 33
955 posts
Busy bee

You’ve made it abundantly clear to him that you’re interested in going out again (nothing inherently wrong with that).  Now it’s his turn to show HIS interest in you. 


Do NOT text him.

Do NOT call him.

If he’s interested, he’ll resurface at some point and actually follow through with a second date.


If he’s not, there are a thousand other guys out there. Don’t lose sleep over this one. 

Post # 34
2332 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’m sorry sounds like he has a lot of girls on the go at once. Doesn’t sound like he’s looking for anything serious 

Post # 36
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wouldn’t text him again. It seems like he is interested.  If you wait for him to get back in contact with you that will give you the peace of mind that he does indeed want to pursue a date with you.  If he doesn’t text you back, that will give you a clear answer too!

Post # 37
616 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

cookingguru :  yes keep us updated! I hope things work out for you!

Post # 38
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Put it in his court and in the meantime, start chatting with someone else so you don’t get too hung up on him. I’ve been there and I know how it feels. Good luck bee!

Post # 39
6243 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think it’s a great idea that you’re going to leave it up to him to reach out to you again. I’d also say that if he doesn’t get back to you within a reasonable time after his return, I would assume this pattern would be true to who he is at this moment  (even if he was telling the truth) and I’d cut ties now if that’s not what you are seeking in a dating relationship. You don’t want to be accommodating and flexible for all of this now to get more dates and connection with him and then down the line end up one of these women on these threads complaining about the same dealbreakers that have permeated the entirety of their relationships.

I’d also make it a priority in the next couple weeks to make plans with other people, maybe go out with/start talking to someone else so that YOU remain aware of the fact that you might like this guy but there are 8 billion people on this planet. You have plenty of other options.

Post # 40
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

cookingguru :  good for you!! It almost sounds like he has too many excuses. I’d just forget about him and move on. If he texts when he gets back, fine. He really doesn’t sound like a catch to me.

Post # 41
4857 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sounds to me like he’s seeing how much he can string you along. I would leave it be. If he does text, I think you should be “busy” and fit him in where it’s convenient for you. I wouldn’t be so available personally. 

Post # 42
1817 posts
Buzzing bee

cookingguru :  the story about not having service I believe. I was up there for vacation two weeks ago and I was baffled at having no service. You’re in the mountains I totally get that but how do people live??? So that part I believe. I do agree that someone wouldn’t come up with such a planned out excuse. Do this… tell him if he wants to meet up when he gets back to contact you. This leaves it in his court. If he doesn’t, move on. In the mean time I would still keep looking for other dates just incase. 

Post # 43
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Ball completely in his court in this scenario. If he still wants to meet up, he will contact you, if not then what’s the point in messaging anyway. If you’re worried he’ll forget about you after a one week trip, then that’s your answer too. 

I hope you find what you’re looking for.

Post # 45
3300 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think dating this dude would be exhausting. I wouldn’t put anymore energy into this. 

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