Post # 1
Holy cow… the truth comes out.
After a long-winded discussion that lasted hours, I found out that SO’s parents don’t like me because I have an autistic child. It started with discovering that SO was doing T-day at his parent’s house. Without inviting me. The minute he found out I would have my son for T-day, I was suddenly disinvited.
I got it out of him that after the first day I met his parents, his father cornered him and told him that my son was a demon child because his father is Muslim (I am not) and he is also autistic. He said God had a plan when he made my son autistic. I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach 10 times. IT BROKE MY HEART TO HEAR SOMEONE SPEAK THAT WAY OF MY CHILD. They never even met him!
Should I mention that SO’s mom is a special education pre-school teacher? My son is 5 years old and high functioning.
What made things worse is that SO is not/did not defend me. Him going to his parent’s without me is not defending me. If any of my parents had the gall to say that about my SO, I would not step foot in their house again until they sincerely apologized.
SO suggested that I start spending more time with his family so they can “grow to like me”. I told SO that I don’t audition. I meet people, act pleasantly, and if they don’t like me, I don’t bother trying to win them over.
I broke up with him for not respecting me and my son. My son and I are doing our own Thanksgiving with people who love and accept us.
I’m not kidding. My relationship with SO was AMAZING. We told each other we loved each other. He told me on Monday that I was his soul mate, and he has never felt this way toward a girl before.
I guess his father’s opinion is more important than ME AN MY SON.
Post # 3
OMG, I’m so so sorry! What an awful thing for his parents to say. And I can’t believe your Fiance didn’t stick up for you. 🙁
Post # 4
wow – im so so sorry that your child (and you) were attacked this way by their backward attitude and the man that says he loves you and is suppose to be your main supporter didnt man up. im pretty speachless right now to be honest *hugs*
Post # 5
Oh my goodness! I can’t believe anyone would act this way. I have an autistic nephew and he is the best. So sorry to hear that this is happening. (hugs)
Post # 6
I look up to you for doing the right thing , in this extremely difficult and unfair circumstance.
I wish you nothing but the best for you and your son!
Post # 7
omfg. I have no words. Hang in there!!
Post # 8
That’s horrible! I’m so sorry you had to go though this. Has he tried apologizing to you for all this?
I’m glad you have people in your life who truly accept you and your son.
Post # 9
I’m sorry that those people are complete morons. As a mother myself, I understand. If anyone says anything about my son, even jokingly I lose a little bit of respect for them. I think you did the right thing though. Your fiance should love him like he is his own, and if he can’t stand up for him like he is his own son, then it shows what the future will hold. Your son is lucky to have a mother like you.Good luck, and god bless.
Post # 10
*HUGS*.. I think you did the right thing.
Post # 11
Oh my god I am absolutely speechless right now. What they said would be absolutely unforgiveable in my eyes. I’m so sorry…you and your son are 100% better off without their toxic attitudes in your lives.
Post # 12
Oh my god! I can’t believe someone would actually say that! That just blows my mind! And it shocks me even more that your SO didn’t stand up for you! You obviously dont deserve that. I wouldn’t give him the time of day!! Good for you for standing up for yourself and your child with breaking up with SO. I am sorry this happened to you.
Post # 13
@Mrs. Harmony: I am so, so sorry. This is absolutely heartbreaking. You are such a wonderful mom for standing strong with your son. You have a tremendous sense of self, values and convictions and that must be a wonderful example for your child. This Thanksgiving, I’m thankful that people like you exist!
Post # 14
That is just horrible. I totally respect you for taking a stand and not letting someone disrepect your son that way. You certainly shouldnt have to audition or seek the approval of someone with such skewed views of the world. They sound like awful people.
Post # 15
That is horrible! I’m so sorry! Good for you for standing up for yourself and your son. No one deserves to be treated like that.
Post # 16
I’m so sorry. Good thing you talked to him about your concerns and good for you standing up for your family. You are a strong woman who deserves a lot better.