- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
WOW!!!! Just an update to my original post about my lovely and wonderful Maid Of Honor! This past month I have seriously been considering retracting my offer to her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I know, I know…..that is a HORRIBLE thing to say! It’s true though!!! I was frustrated enough when she requested me to fork out $500 for an extravagant Bachelorette weekend within 24 hours. Number 1 I didn’t need such an extravagant party and Number 2 I just spent $10,000 on deposits and didn’t have $500 extra to drop on a cruise that was 1 year out!
So here are my updates. She has been one of my closest friends throughout the past 10 years. She has always been controlling, negative and somewhat demeaning. However, I thought that she would at least be supportive and positive when it came to planning my wedding. Especialy since she works as a Wedding Butler with the most exclusive Resort here in Newport Beach! I mean it is her JOB to HELP Brides and be supportive and encouraging! I thought she would be PERFECT for the job of Maid/Matron of Honor. Instead she has been NEGATIVE NELLY! She has questioned EVERY single decision that I have made! Not only does she question me….but she challenges my decision and wants to know WHY I decided that and exactly how many other optio have I looked into. She will then e-mail me a list of reason why she thinks my decision is wrong!
I have tried avoiding any talk of wedding with her the past 3 months and just focusing on our Friendship. Hoping that would fix her attitude! Instead…..she has gotten even bitchier!
I recently called all of my Bridesmaids to get their opiions on a pair of Steve Madden shoes I had found. We had all discussed price points that they were comfortable with and heel height as well. Everyone was positive. My Maid/Matron of Honor even saide she “liked” them. However she then follwed that with this sentance. ” You know I have been thinking a lot lately. I would really like for you to create an Excel spreadhseet for me. I want you to outline every expense that we are going to have to pay for as Bridesmaids. I need to know how much it is going to cost me to be your Bridesmaid!”
Now, I responded by explaining that I could not possibly know how much everything is going to cost yet. We have 12 months before the wedding. Everytime I try to get her to come try on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses she bails. I did explain that the dress I found was $115 (relativly inexpensive from what I understand) especilly since she drops $400 on dresses all the time! The shoes are $79 and are a style they can wear all the time. She wants me to pay for the BM’s hair and Makeup….which I explained is not happening. I found a woman to do each Bridesmaid or Best Man for $60 (for hair and makeup I thought that was reasonable) So overall….they are paying around $256 to be my Bridesmaids.
I think that is extremely reasonable! Especially since they have 1 year to save up. What pissed me off the most was that she makes it sound like that is an outrageous number…..but remeber that this is the same girl who was ready to drop $500 on a cruise!!!!
I honestly don’t think I want someone like her standing by my side when I say “I Do!”
Am I being unreasonable? Sorry for such a long post! I needed to vent and wanted you to have all the details :/