(Closed) Update on the relationship. Infidelity and lies.

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
2320 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

That’s disgusting. Dump him NOW

Post # 32
2117 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’m sorry, Bee. Do you really think that when a woman on one of these sites suggests meeting up, he says, “oh no, I’m faithful to my wonderful girlfriend. I’m just using you for porn”? I think he is likely physically cheating as well. It’s heartbreaking, but it’s best if you leave and get this behind you as soon as you can.

Post # 33
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Girl, run! 

Don’t walk. Run. 

Post # 34
4207 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

Oh bee… Please dont believe that bullshit… You’re smarter than that. PM me if you want to. I was in your shoes about a year ago but I ended up staying until I actaully caught him… trust me, don’t wait that long. You deserve 1000000x more than this. Love shouldnt feel this crappy…EVER.

Post # 35
57 posts
Worker bee

I’ll just agree with pretty much all of the advice on here. He doesn’t deserve you! Seriously please move on to someone with respect for you, you deserve to have a faithful man. And I highly doubt he wasn’t going to do something…if that was true why would he be on those sites/apps to begin with?? Did you ask him how he would feel if you did that to him? Ugh. I can’t imagine how you’re feeling right now. He’s truly a sick person 🙁

Post # 36
7518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

“His excuse was he wasn’t going to do anything and was using their responses and conversation as porn. I get that.

You get that?? Why exactly? Because that’s incredibly fucked up. I am guessing that your sex drive did not shrivel up and die in the 2 weeks you were apart from your bf…but did you download multiple hookup apps and start sending nude photos to men in order to satiate those needs? No? Then why the fuck would you ever accept that kind of behavior from your partner?

Tough love time: get some self respect and dump this pathetic scumbag. 

Post # 37
2990 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008


If he wants to view porn, he can go to free online porn sites or try to talk you into a sex tape (personally, I wouldn’t do the sex tape thing). Interacting with live people for his own sexual gratification is crossing the line. 

Please get tested for STDs… Better to be safe than sorry! 

Post # 38
1199 posts
Bumble bee

Using hookup/cheating sites as porn is like using a prostitute as a dildo. The argument just doesn’t hold water. 

Post # 39
2414 posts
Buzzing bee

Why would you want to be with someone who would “use” ANYBODY for ANYTHING?

He doesn’t deserve you or your love or your faithfulness or your devotion to him.

YOU deserve someone who will cherish you.


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