So evidently I am a “drama llama,” a “doormat” and a “humble bragger” among other things — as well as a 3rd grade level creative writing student, horrible friend to Groom, and liar. I have a weak constitution and made reference to A Streetcar Named Desire as well, and am trashy myself for being friends with someone who married a trashy woman… Oh, and to the people at that other site who are so sure this is fiction because I couldn’t have taken my stun gun on the plane — I most certainly did take it in my checked luggage. Just so you know, you can actually pack a handgun in checked luggage also. And yeah, I did forget about my stun gun because I don’t carry it regularly since I’m not ususally in some sort of situation that would call for it. Hubby suggested I pack it in case Bride & I went out without him & Groom & specifically asked me to put it in my purse when I announced that I’d be going to the strip club and gave him the address at the dodgy end of The Strip. Sheesh!
I’m thinking this will be my last update as I never imagined this thread would get so much attention, criticism, and venom. Also, there likely won’t be anything more to update.
The couple has returned. I believe Groom’s nephew (Sister’s son) retrieved them from the airport, but am not sure as I haven’t spoken to either of them as of yet.
Hubby reached out to Groom to ask “How’s married life” and Groom said all is well and sent a really nice note thanking both of us for our support and for “being there when things got a little crazy.” There was more, but basically it was “I love you man. Thanks for being a friend & a brother. I hope to be the type of husband you are.”
As for Bride — I’ve not heard a single peep from her. They announced their marriage on social media and added a photo of their faces only (sorry, no shots of the onesie for you).
Groom’s sister let me know that she told Bride in no uncertain terms that she’s full of it regarding me ruining her wedding and not allowing photos. Also, evidently Bride drunk dialed Groom’s brother to gloat that she married Groom and somehow Brother’s wife is now aware that Brother cheated on her with Bride, so that’s likely to be all kinds of interesting.
But I’m not getting involved in any of that (although I’m being questioned by Sister about what I knew & when I knew it) & like I said, haven’t heard from Bride at all, so I guess that’s it for this “shitshow” as it’s being called.
FWIW, no, this was not fiction. Yes, this really happened, and I really did just come to WeddingBee because I couldn’t tell anyone IRL since the whole thing was a secret.
Now, I’m dealing with whether or not to be honest when Groom’s family members ask me “How was the wedding?” I want to be honest and say how ridiculous the entire thing was, but I don’t see how that would improve anything, so I guess silence is golden.
And lastly, for those who said we are bad friends for allowing them to get married, for not saying “Groom, you can’t marry this trashy woman” or not just walking away: Obviously, Hubby talked with Groom about it because Groom confided Bride’s history with Brother to him. So Groom knows who he’s marrying and is okay with the history and *we’re* supposed to chastise and abandon him? Say what you will, but IMO that’s not what a real friend would do.
I can admit that I had a short-lived 1st marriage to a not-so-nice guy. And my friends & family cautioned me not to marry him, counseled me, begged me, etc. But at the end of the day, I made my decision to marry him and truth be told, we eloped to Vegas and my best friend flew cross country to be with me on my wedding day and sign the marriage certificate. Needless to say, the marriage was absolutely a mistake and didn’t last, but my friend stood by me and was there for me when it fell apart.
If this marriage makes Groom happy, then I can only hope that it will last. I don’t have to like Bride; I just have to be cordial. However, if the marriage doesn’t last, Hubby & I will be there for Groom because we are his friends and we love him.