Post # 1
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40 posts
Newbee
The last time I posted on here I was getting ready to graduate from college with my Bachelors degree in early childhood education. Needless to say this summer has been filled with letdowns. I interviewed for several teaching positions, only one was promising, but I still got the denial letter in the mail. Thus, I am back to working at the grocery store I have worked at sonce high school. I am on a sub list for a district I would love to get into but they do not even have any open shifts 🙁 Based on my lack of career, I have discussed with my SO about becoming a stay at home mom when we decide to have kids. However that would be after marriage obviously. So now, more than ever would like to get engaged soon, so we can have a wedding in a year’s time. My SO has told me he’d like to buy a house in 2years, but would like to get married before we buy a house, leading to believe he as well would like to get married next year. He was even planning to take a mini 4day vaca this fall but later found out his work would not approve of him taking days off until January. i thought he might be planning to propose during that trip, but now that it has to be postponed until January I do not feel that is enough time to plan a wedding for late September early October wedding, and I really don’t want to be engaged longer than 1.5 years. What do you gals think? Sorry for the mini vent, it’s just nice to know I’m not the only one wanting to make the one thing steady in my life permanent.
Post # 3
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206 posts
Helper bee
“My SO has told me he’d like to buy a house in 2years, but would like to get married before we buy a house, leading to believe he as well would like to get married next year.”
Get him to say/agree to that timeline. Alot of girls assume it will happen based on what their SO has said about other things but then it turns out the guy wasn’t even thinking about the timing of the proposal that way.
“i thought he might be planning to propose during that trip, but now that it has to be postponed until January I do not feel that is enough time to plan a wedding for late September early October wedding, and I really don’t want to be engaged longer than 1.5 years.”
Where are the Sept/Oct dates coming from? If these are just your ideal wedding times, he may not know that and even if he does, he may not realise he needs to propose quickly to make that happen.
Post # 4
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22 posts
Newbee
Do NOT try to think about when he might propose. It turns every night out into a huge disappointment. Every trip becomes filled with hope and anticipation until you realize it’s NOT going to happen right then, and it just ruins the whole thing.
Enjoy where you are in your relationship right now. Cherish the time you have together, especially if you want to have children soon!
Also, you do not need an entire year to plan a wedding. We started planning in January and were married in May with little stress.
Post # 5
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40 posts
Newbee
He knows I would like to get married in the fall, so for Ohio that would be sept.-October. I always wanted at least a year to plan the wedding and I have told him that I need a minimum of12 months.
Post # 6
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
@wmk6: We got engaged in December and had a July wedding – that short of a time planning wasn’t easy but it is totally possible and turned out perfect.
Post # 7
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201 posts
Helper bee
I’m with @Novella. That’s enough time to plan a wedding. We got engaged in April and are getting married in a week and half. It takes a lot of work and organization, but it’s definitely doable! Do prep work now if you can – start making lists of possible venues and photographers. Be ready to hit the ground running when it’s go time! 
