Post # 1
For those who read this post: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/cant-wait-to-see-you-at-the-wedding-who-the-f-are-you
I believe the last I shared with you all was that FH’s dad was going to try and talk some sense into his wife and her mom (grandma). It was FH’s other grandmas birthday on Sunday so the family had a cookout (being that we are 11 hours away we didn’t attend, even though everyone else in the family did. Shame on us). After the cookout Future Mother-In-Law called FH to discuss the wedding. Without going into too much detail the “extra” people will not be coming. Gladys, her grandaughter and the grandaughters boyfriend are still attending but the 6 random people from the letter are not. FMIL’s exact words, “They are terribly upset about it but understand that I (June) am not willing to compromise” WTF ever lady I don’t care if I offended people I’ve never met, nor will ever meet.
They also will not be paying for anything outside of the rehearsal dinner (the Rehearsal Dinner is another story in itself) I know they don’t have to pay for anything at all but once upon a time there was talk of them contributing to the flower budget because Future Mother-In-Law thought it was horrible that I wasn’t having floral decor down the length of the aisle.
So not too much drama actually came out of this but I’m waiting for the backlash b/c Lord knows its coming!
Post # 3
I don’t get it. Your Future Mother-In-Law stood up for you and told her mom that she won’t budge, or you told your Future Mother-In-Law that you won’t budge?
Post # 4
Well I’m glad that the extra 6 are not coming! That is good. Hopefully there will be no more drama from this.
Post # 5
Well congrats on getting the 6 crazies off the list! A small victory is still a victory! Good luck with the crazies you cant take off the list!
Post # 6
I had read your previous post. Well, I AM glad about the additional 6 aren’t coming. That’s good news! I hope that you won’t be living near Future In-Laws. Ugh! Best of luck dealing with them in the future. Good for you for standing up! Now they know that they can’t call the shots. It will help if/when you have children. 🙂
Post # 7
my god woman, i wish you the best of luck in dealing with your FI’s family in the future. they certainly sound like a trip. may i ask how many people you are having in total?
Post # 8
You should send your Future Mother-In-Law a thank you note. I was just wondering about this the othr day–I’m glad it worked out!
Post # 9
I love how it’s the BRIDE who won’t compromise and is the bad guy in these situations…it’s never the COUPLE who offends. What jerks.
Post # 10
@shaunna: FFIL spoke to Future Mother-In-Law. I’m assuming Future Mother-In-Law then spoke to her mom. She tried to get huffy with FH on the phone. You could tell she was not happy about it but she didn’t seem to be fighting it as much. Also Future Father-In-Law confirmed for us that the grandma DID speak to Gladys about the extra people not being welcome.
@Riot: lol, thats what I was thinking!
@Mrs. Meowerson: We’re hoping for 100 but will probably be around 130. People Future Mother-In-Law said would not attend have already sent their Yes RSVP’s back.
Post # 11
Glad to hear that everything worked out, but seriously? “We understand that June won’t compromise” Is she serious with that crap?? How about, unless you are going to contribute something, you don’t get a say in who is invited.
Post # 12
I’m glad they’re not coming! And good luck with the rest of it 🙂
Post # 13
@2PeasinaPod: Yeah that pissed me off too. She acted like FH wanted them there but I was being a bitch about it. FH said something like, I’m glad we won’t have people on my list I don’t even know. She responded with, I know you’ll miss them at the wedding but since June doesn’t want them there…then he interrupted her to say HE didn’t want them there and she responded with, “right, I know how things work” ERRRR that women. I had no idea I was so manipulative and horrible!
Post # 14
Yikes! I just read your initial post, and goodness what a mess that was. I’m glad that it’s somewhat getting worked out. I’m sorry that you have to deal with this situation in the first place. Not fair to you and it makes me sad to think of all the ill-feelings on both sides that could be arising due to all the drama.
Post # 15
Glad to hear that this seems to be working itself out!
Post # 16
Oh honey. Good luck to you. Just reading this makes my blood boil, I can’t imagine actually having to deal with your Future Mother-In-Law. I think it’s just going to be important for your FH to set up some really strict boundaries with them.
We also keep a healthy distance from my FIL’s.