Post # 1
Member
490 posts
Helper bee
Hello all!
For some reason, I couldn’t log into my old WB account (my3fallkiddos) but I was able to long into this account which I had forgotten about! I wanted to give an update on my wedding set that I posted about under my other WB name (That I’ll delete since this one works now).
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/would-you-buy-a-pre-owned-engagement-ring-setting-or-wedding-band-from-ebay/
Quick back ground for those that don’t care to clink on the link (but are still curious :)): I wanted a halo setting and found one pre-owned on ebay for significantly less than new, retail from the Jared’ store. The setting was 2 months old and the seller changed her mind but it was too late to return it. I won the auction and had Jared’s size it up from a 5 to a 6, and they put in a new head to fit and set my diamond. I also won a used Jared’s 3/4 eternity diamond band that I had cleaned and polished at a local jewelers, and they made it look brand new again! I was amazed at how new it looked!
But a few weeks ago I started to struggle with it being used. DH started to get frustrated because he loves my wedding set and feels I need to view it as I got exactly what I wanted for a great deal. Basically, he’s happy with it, he doesn’t care that either rings were pre-owned, especially since they were cleaned, polished, and plated to look new again. And he feels I need to let it go and be HAPPY, 100% happy with my rings. Only Darling Husband and I know that they are pre-owned.
I’m still dealing with the conflict and a couple of weeks ago, had to have the shank remade at my jeweler (NOT Jared’s). When Jared’s had sized it up from a 5 to a 6, they just thinned the bottom out, allowing it to possibly bend or break, and it made the ring spin. So, I took it to a highly recommended jeweler who remade the shank and it looks perfect. I kind of feel like my ring has had a lot “work” done on it. 🙁
Anyway, someone had asked to see photos of my rings and I wanted to post some that I took after both rings had been professionally cleaned! One of them I have posted a couple of times already. I want to add… I genuinely LOVE my rings. I get compliments all the time and I just love wearing them. But what’s holidng me back from saying “Yup, I’m done!” is the fact that they were used from ebay. I know, first world issues. 😉
Thanks everyone!
Post # 2
Member
5192 posts
Bee Keeper
carrotcake2003: Your rings are beautiful! I love the unique setting of your e-ring, and of course your wedding band because it’s a slightly larger version of mine!
Post # 3
Member
98 posts
Worker bee
That is a tall ring! Very unique and beautiful.
I wouldn’t care that they were preworn, ice been looking at a wedding band to match my ring on eBay and the vintage part of etsy. I almost had a vintage wedding dress. Used is A OK on my books!
Post # 4
Member
1632 posts
Bumble bee
carrotcake2003: Every stone has a history, most of us just don’t know the full story before it gets onto our hand. Your ring is gorgeous and bonus that you got a good deal. I wouldn’t dwell on the back story and let it be your (and wedding bee’s) little secret
Post # 5
Member
5280 posts
Bee Keeper
carrotcake2003: Wow!! Your set is stunning. I love the setting of your ERing. The side view is especially pretty! And your band goes perfectly with it. Beautiful!! And getting such a great deal makes it even more amazing.
Post # 6
Member
490 posts
Helper bee
Thank you! We bought my diamond new from Jared’s and Darling Husband said that it could easily have been a trade in, and we would never know. Which is true. I do wish my diamond was bigger. My original was a 1 carat princess but the corner chipped, and thankfully it was insured. I didn’t want to worry about another chipped corner so I bought a round diamond. Once of the reasons I love my halo is that its cushioned shape! Anyway, it’s a silly issue I need to get over! 🙂 Thanks for the compliments on my set. 🙂
Post # 7
Member
490 posts
Helper bee
kayvee: When Jared set my diamond I was worried at how high it was set! When the shank was remade, I had the jeweler lower it. It’s much better now and I have learned to love that the diamond sits up a bit higher because so much light goes through the diamond! Thank you! 🙂<br />
Post # 8
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1604 posts
Bumble bee
carrotcake2003: I absolutely love your set! Your ering is gorgeous, it’s very sparkly and beautiful! I personally wouldn’t mind a pre owned ring, I have bought some beautiful rings from pawn shops over the years and I have inherited some from my grandmother etc. even when you purchase a loose diamond, you will never know if it has been pre owned etc like your husband said. I wouldn’t worry because it belongs to you now and you can then pass it to your children later on if you decide! Enjoy that stunning bling! 🙂
Post # 9
Hostess
11263 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
carrotcake2003: a wise shopper saves money where they can. Your ring is gorgeous. Stop thinking about it being pre loved and just enjoy!
Post # 10
Member
194 posts
Blushing bee
My ring is also from ebay. It’s an upgrade from my original ring and I love that we got such a good deal. I wish I would have thought to look there when we first got engaged and maybe I wouldn’t have had to upgrade at all!
Post # 11
Member
490 posts
Helper bee
Stephanie8904: I’d love to see a picture of your ebay ring!
Post # 12
Member
194 posts
Blushing bee
Sorry for the giant photo. I can’t resize with my phone. I also can’t get good pictures with my phone either… It’s from the Vera Wang collection And I paid less than half of retail.
