Sorry but I’m not buying any of this. This sounds like a case of young long with a young man who just isn’t mature enough to be anywhere near ready for marriage. He threw out a rough estimate last year for when he predicted he’d be ready to propose to pacify you and now that the time is here and you held him accountable to that timeline, he balked.
“He said he agreed, I was right, but that’s not really what he meant. When he took me ring shopping in February, he was ready.”
I don’t believe that for a second. If he was ready then, he would still be ready now. He could have continued doing his research online and contacted jewelers from home to see what his options were. He would never have said “I’m not ready and I don’t know if I ever will be.” He would have said “I’m ready and am just waiting on the ring.”
Your SO didn’t say that and there’s a huge difference between the two statements. If he was truly ready like he claims, there never would have been an argument because he would have kept you updated about the process.
“He brought up that we’ve been fighting a lot lately and I told him that these discussions were not fights.”
Sounds like he’s trying to deflect and indirectly justify not being ready by partially blaming it on having arguments. His immaturity is showing here.
And this part is the most telling imo:
“He said he was sorry for using that choice of words when it’s not what he meant. He still wants to get engaged. He said he’s been talking to two of his friends about it and they’re all kind of in the same boat where they want to propose to their long-time girlfriends but they’re not really sure how to go about it.”
To me, it sounds like he regrets admitting to you how he really felt and is now backpedaling, attributing blame to “the wrong choice of words.” It’s not the wrong choice of words at all- he just regrets finally being honest because you got upset and he realizes that if you realize that he may never be ready that you would probably leave him. Now he’s changing the story and blaming semantics to try to buy more time with you.
And I’m sorry but what moron doesn’t know how to propose? That is the sorriest excuse in the book. Sounds like his idiot friends are in the same boat trying to all figure out how to stall together.
I’m sorry bee but honestly I don’t think anything has changed here. It honestly sounds like he is just not ready for marriage and he is changing his story to pacify you. This is just my opinion and I’d love to be wrong, but I don’t have a good feeling about this.