Update: One year later and he's still not ready.

posted 1 year ago in Waiting
Post # 106
2598 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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@peach11:  In threads like these, posters tend to bring their frustrations to the table first, and updates, clarifications, and follow up conversations between the couple come out later.

At the beginning of this thread, for instance, all we had was “he said he may never be ready”. Early commenters tailored responses to that statement. As the thread went on, OP had more conversations with her now-fiancé and got more clarity. At that point, people telling her she should still leave were either cynical or not reading updates. 

All the Bee has is what we’re given by the OP and our collective experiences. 

Post # 107
1637 posts
Bumble bee

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To be fair, reading the starter post, OPs boyfriend had said at 23 that he would propose at 24, and then at 24 said he wasn’t ready for marriage and didn’t think he ever would be.  So I’m not surprised if she had people advising her to be careful.

OP, I’m glad things have worked out for you both.

Post # 108
2052 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Whatever you decide to do, DO NOT BUY A HOUSE WITH THIS MAN UNTIL YOU MARRY HIM. With this type of “idk” attitude, even if he proposes tomorrow, the engagement could last 10 years. 

Edit: just read your update lol but my point stands for all people reading anyway. Congrats!

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