Update (original post deleted; backstory in here)

posted 10 months ago in Waiting
Post # 2
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2018 - City, State

sep88 :  Congratulations Bee!!!! Im glad this all worked out. thoae situations are so tricky and I agree some Bees get very stuck in their opinion when they dont have all the info etc etc. You really gotta decide who have valid a pointsof advice and makeur own choices- and you did and it paid off!!

Good luck  and congrats again!!


Post # 3
1001 posts
Bumble bee

So glad it worked out for you guys, Bee!  Congratulations on your engagement!

Only you and your boyfriend knew the full details of your situation, and following your gut is always a perfeclty valid, and usually reasonable, option.

I think the reason so many Bees are quick to get to the point of snarky is that we see it so much on these boards where women come to vent at their lowest and must frustrated and make their situations or SOs sound much worse than they probably are.  We women band together against the guys who are actually taking their ladies for a ride, so it’s a natural response, I think. 

Post # 4
2731 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Congrats bee!!! Can we see the ring? 🙂

Im not sure if I commented on your other post, but I moved overseas for my then-boyfriend and he proposed 1.5 years later, and has since moved overseas himself back to my home country. And I would move away for him again now in a heartbeat, and will in the next few years I’m sure. I think you’ve shown that you are willing to both communicate and make personal sacrifices for eachother which is a great sign that you will have a long and happy marriage 🙂 

Post # 5
573 posts
Busy bee

Congratulations! I’m glad that everything worked out well for you and I hope that you guys are happy in your new life together!

Post # 6
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Congratulations!! I think I remember seeing your post. I think when we come here for advice we are all just struggling to understand what the hold up is. The truth is, depending on how each of us feel that day (hopeful, defeated, etc.) kind of sets the tone for how we respond (in my opinion).  If I’m not feeling great about where I am at that day I try not to respond or at least try not to let how I am feeling spill over into my responses.  I have posted before and received some not so great feedback- which at the time left me feeling defeated (misery loves company if you get what I am saying). I always try  not to take what people say to heart although there are many times us bees receive some really good words of insight and encouragement. Now let’s see that ring smile

Post # 7
749 posts
Busy bee

sep88 :  Congratulations Bee!

I also think that both sides are valid, and I’m glad that it worked out for you.

Post # 8
2467 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

Congrats Bee! I’m glad things worked out.

Post # 9
1522 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Yay! I’m glad things worked out for you!

Post # 11
1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

I don’t remember your original post, there’s just so many of them that tell the same story but congrats. 

Good reminder to not always listen to people on the internet because no one actually knows your life and your relationship!

Post # 12
420 posts
Helper bee

unfortunately a large portion of the bees are cynical and believe the worst in people based on a few paragraphs on a forum, it’s always hard to gauge where people are, whos being taken for a ride and those who are genuine,


The bees I feel have seen too many times the opposite come true and it has blackened some of their little hearts.

I am glad you came back to post, it’s lovely seeing happy endings, those are the endings we want to see here on the Bee, it’s the reason I still spend my time here. Congrats to you and your new fiance and all the best with the next moves!

Post # 13
1005 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Congratulations and I’m glad it worked out!

I’m a little worried that he kept this under wraps… It did bring you a lot of anxiety. I’m glad he considered that you needed time to get a feel for your new home, but maybe more communication would have helped bring you two on the same page?

Again, I’m glad it worked out after all!

Post # 14
1233 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

I’m happy you two will be building your life together! But it’s that unbudging “proof” that was contingent on him proposing that feels kinda eh to me. Did then, too. But again, I’m glad you’re both comfortable with your life together.

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