- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
It’s 12:50 a.m. where I live, i wanted to be in bed by midnight.. and instead I’m crying my eyes out while ready to kill someone….
I just got off the phone from a long argument with FH – the one who borrowed $150 to pay off a ticket that resulted in his drivers’ licence being suspended, so he could start his new job, after spending $150 on Saturday on a frivoulous item at a Renaissance Faire.
He keeps repeating – ‘I’ve been good, I’ve paid my bills and I haven’t treated myself in several months. I deserved it. I’m sorry it turned out I needed to pay the bills now – not Oct. 5 – but I appreciate it. ‘
He doesn’t CARE that he put me in a bind that leaves ME with no spending money all week, and is forcing me to cancel my weekend plans with friends.
When I get upset that he doesn’t see to care, his response is I should have just asked my mom.
Try to point out FH is 30, and should be a responsible adult on his own two feet, not running to mommy. He claims that’s the point of family, to help you out.
I give him financial advice on how to start turning his situation around (like basics, that at 30 years old you should have a bank account). and he gets angry and starts screaming me.
I’ve had enough. If he’s not willign to change, I can’t see dealing with this the rest of my life…
I’m distraught tha the can’t see my point of view, refuses to read good solid financial advice written friendly, easy-to-read from a valid source online, won’t see credit counseling (oh yeah, did I mention that his is horrific) and…..
I’ve worked my ass off at more than one job over the last 3 yeast to build an emergency fund, a savings, a 401K, a Roth account and more. I’m single handedly paying for more than half our wedding, and likely the one paying entirely for our first apartment/house.
I don’t even think he’s grateful. I feel like I’m being taken advantage of.