(Closed) Update – Realizing Fh was Faked Out

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@dragonlover:  Oh man, I am so sorry you are going through this! *HUGS* I am not sure what to think, and I imagine you feel the same. On one hand, he cares to want to get you something nice like platinum, but yet he lied to you and didn’t care enough to check what it really was, OR thought he could fool you.

I would be super irked by this. I would rather hear that he showed a shocked reaction to hear he was duped (if he truly was). Personally I would trade it in/sell it due to the bad feelings that go with it, and get something you love in your price range of course. As long as there is not something deeper going on, I would want to move on from that ring altogether and get a fresh start.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’m a little curious as to why you had your ring tested? What made you doubt him in the first place?

 

Post # 5
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@BerryBerry:  her ring was stamped with a sterling silver label.

OP, I’m really sorry. This sucks.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

You’re right, his reaction is strange. Maybe he’s embarrassed that you found out that either he got scammed or that he lied to you.

Either way, I’m sorry you have to go through this with your e-ring.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MapleMoose:  I agree.  From his reaction, I really think he knew.  If this was new info, I’d think he’d be upset that he was ripped off too.

At this point, since you told him and he denies it, I think I’d just drop it.  Do you know what he really paid for it and if in fact he did get ripped off.  Or have you just been going by what he’s told you?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would talk to him about this. If he was in fact scammed, he needs to file a report. If he lied to you, you need to have a talk. That’s a pretty serious thing to lie about. I know that its the thought that counts, and maybe he felt pressured to buy you a ring that he could not afford, but to lie about something so important is bad. I, for one, would want to get to the root of the problem here. If he lied because he was lazy or did not think you would ever know the difference, I think I would have a really hard time forgiving him. If he did it out of embarrassment or shame that he could not afford better, it seems like there is hope for you to salvage the situation. If he was scammed, he needs to get his money back. Either way, he has some explaining to do!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

hmmm…that would make me really uncomfortable personally.  I would push him about his lack of reaction and find out what he knew–maybe he just really wanted to please you??  but if you don’t feel comfortable about this, what about the even bigger decisions you’ll have to trust him on after you get married…? idk…  I agree with cupcake 2012 that I would probably want to get a new ring as well 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

There is absolutely nothing wrong with buying the ring you can afford, but at the same time a platinum plated ring with diamonds might run about $100-$200 and cannot be worn like a platinum ring. How much did he say he paid?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I hope he isn’t lying about bigger issues. Maybe this was just a pride thing and an isolated incident.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

If he was duped, it could be that he feels really angry/embarassed about it. I don’t know your Fiance, obviously, but when my guy gets embarassed or realizes he got screwed at something, he gets really quiet and brooding. I read your other post; is it possible the aunt/jewelry dealer screwed him over and now he’s deciding what to do?

 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

No reaction? Especially if he paid that kind of money? Something is amiss… I’m sorry to say.

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