(Closed) Update: Should I Go

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

This to me would be a sign that he isn’t respecting you and the time he has told you he will be spending with you. Esp, since he is now involving your child in his disappointment. I wouldn’t be happy at all and personally wouldn’t be going anywhere with him. 

 He’s pushing you aside for his friends and then doesn’t want to call you when he gets home and then is late and not reachable to next day….that’s a no go IMO.

 

Post # 4
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@KeshiaSimone: I won’t say wrong…but I think your anger from yesterday is feeding into today. I would be pissed if my SO were four hours late…totally. I get that.

But yesterday you were talking about leaving him because he wanted to get off the phone and hang out with his friends without having to call you back. In all honesty I feel like you are looking for excuses to leave (at least that is what I gather from this one post–I haven’t read your others).

In a LDR people have to live their own lives too, and that means sometimes you have to go to bed without a phone call. You mentioned you talk several times throughout the day–is that not dedication?

From what I can see (which isn’t alot since this is the internet) I think long distance is getting to you. Being four hours late is unreasonable on his part, but contemplating leaving him because he didn’t want to talk for 10 minutes last night is a little unreasonable too. Keep it together, and let us know what happens!

Post # 6
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@KeshiaSimone:Ah. I must have mistaken the “should I go” as leave the relationship when you meant “should I go tomorrow”, my mistake. Like I said, it is hard to tell these things when you don’t know the situation personally. And I mentioned that I totally agree with being angry that he’s so late. That’s ridiculous.

Good luck with everything!

Post # 7
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@KeshiaSimone: I would be ready to go off on him. I think it is best to use this time to cool down. Try to be level headed and calm when you talk to him. If you need to, write down your feelings. Make it clear how you feel. Try to give him the benefit of the doubt (I know he is wrong) because if you jump on him things may not get resolved. Plus, sometimes guys think that they are doing something good, when it is a bad idea. (Ex: I wanted to hangout with my friends and get that out of the way so that I could focus on you.) He may have never thought that it would make you feel like he is avoiding you. 

I’ve been with my hubby since high school. I found that when we have a disagreement that it helps when we are calmer and try to focus on resolving the issue. 

Good luck!

Post # 8
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Any update to the update?

Post # 9
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410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I hope he eventually showed up and you were able to talk it out. It sucks when our SO’s don’t make us feel like a priority.

If this is a pattern I hope you can get it resolved before the wedding. Marriage tends to exascerbate these kinds of issues, not reslove them. Especially if kids are in the picture. He sounds like he may just need to grow up a little and get his priorities straight. Be direct, and let him know how you feel. I hope it works out, good luck!

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