Post # 1
its been awhile since i Posteed here. some of you may recall my previous post here about my birthday disaster in early January. I managed to shut it up for a month but once my birthday passed a ‘come to jesus’ talk took place a couple of days after.
from the conversation we had i realized he was nowhere near planning anything as i had previously thought, had there been a clear answer as to where this was heading there wouldntve been a walk date in the first place.
that conversatioon was my light switch moment that this man was never going to marry me, but i didnt end it there, i think i needed a little time to mourn, cry over a bucket of ice cream and finally just accept the situation as is.
my walk date was January 31st, but i left on the 28th. I told him I needed more than what he was offering and It was time for me to move on, I did wish him the best. it hurts like no pain ive ever experienced, I still love him and think about what couldve been, but it needed to be done.
I cant help but feel woe is me about things, im 29 and starting over, I spent valentines day alone watching romance movies in my PJs (which doesnt help after a breakup) I guess im more so posting this for women who are in limbo like i was with no clear answer as to a ‘when’. dont waste anymore time than you have to, ill never get those years back. most of my 20s were spent with him.
I wish everyone here the best, but for obvious reasons being on a wedding board isnt helping me any, so i must take my leave.
not sure whose minding the waiting list, but you can remove me.
take care everyone.
Post # 3
I just joined today but I followed your story when I was ( a creepy) lurker. I’m sorry things didn’t work out as you planned, but I’m really glad you posted an update and I’m sure there are much bigger and better things in store for a strong woman like you!
Post # 4
@NickiBee: So sorry to hear that you walked. I’ll remove you from the list. Best of luck to you.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry that it came to this but I have to say that I’m so proud of you for sticking to what you believe and what is right for you and going with it.
Good luck with the future – you’re going to find an amazing man who deserves you!
Post # 6
So sorry but really at 29 you have PLENTY of time! Better to have left than to have wasted any more time. You showed some serious dignity by wishing him well and taking care of yourself first….bravo lady….BRAVO!
Post # 7
I’m so sorry you’re hurting now! But when you find The One, who is DYING to marry you, it’s going to be SO worth it!
Post # 8
Sorry it didn’t work out. You are extremely brave and I’m glad you looked out for yourself. You will find a good guy soon!
Post # 9
@NickiBee: I have to say that I am so proud of you and admire that you had the strength to walk away from a relationship that wasn’t right. It will hurt for a while, but I believe things will get better! Hang in there!
Post # 10
Good for you for doing what you knew had to be done. It’s a sucky situation, but things will definitely get better! I’m glad you shared your story for other bees who may be able to draw strength from you.
Post # 11
Any woman who can demonstratecourage and independence like that is a woman man would die to have by his side. And now he will find you! You are so very brave and an inspiration for exhibiting the strength that so many women do not have. Best of luck to you!
Post # 12
Congratulations on taking the step to walk; I know it took a lot of courage and guts. Someday, you will find a guy who is worth your time, and you won’t feel like you need a walk date.
Post # 13
You have plenty of time!!! You are still a baby, only 29! Geesh, I just got hitched and I’m 35 almost 36. Your knight in shining armor will come! 🙂 Proud of you for leaving someone who was not treating you as you deserved, more women should have your strength and courage (and smarts!!)
Post # 15
@NickiBee: sorry but take pride in the fact you didn’t let him waste your 30s too! Go ahead and grieve for a moment them dust yourselves off and down some time enjoying you. That’s when met my guy…when I wasn’t looking like everyone says 🙂
Post # 16
@NickiBee: Hang in there! It takes a lot of courage to be able to cope with change. Wishing you the best!