(Closed) Update: So I Walked..

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
4554 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I am really proud of you. I know it’s really hard but I started over at 28, and now I am engaged to someone so much better for me. As long as you keep your refusal to not settle for anything less than you deserve, you will find someone out there who would be eager and proud to call you his wife.

Post # 18
2246 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

*hugs* I’m so sorry it didn’t work out but I commend you for being brave and not settling for a relationship that doesn’t fulfill your needs. You deserve much more than he was willing to give to you and you should be proud of yourself for being strong and recognizing that. I wish you the best of luck and much love and happiness for the future. Smile

Post # 19
1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@NickiBee:  You hang in there.  When you meet the RIGHT guy, it will all make sense as to why this happened and you will be glad it did.  I’m in awe of your strength.

Post # 21
144 posts
Blushing bee

@NickiBee: Im so bummed to hear this. I made a post a few weeks ago asking about you. I was hoping to hear good news. But I will say, I have so much RESPECT for you, for sticking with your plan. I know its hard, and my words of comfort mean nothing. But you hang in there, i hope the man of your dreams comes very soon. we all deserve nothing but the best. **Hugs** This will give me the strength I need (if my walk date comes) and my SO hasn’t stepped up.

Post # 22
6263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@NickiBee:  I know how you feel! I walked from someone when I was about to turn 27 after almost 7 years. He never really tried to get me back and to this day insists I needed to just “wait.” Now, I am 29 and engaged to someone who cant wait to spend the rest of his life with me. You will find that person too!

Post # 23
1357 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@NickiBee:  Were all so proud of you its never too late to find love. I been with my ex for 7 yrs and i honestly was hoping and wished we got married but we didnt i walked away from the relationship because i knew he wasnt going to give me what I wanted and needed from him after 2yrs later I met  this great guy completely happy and were both on the same page  .. I honestly wish you the best!

Post # 24
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Good for you!  Hang in there, it’ll only get better.  I know how much it hurts now.  I walked away from my boyfriend of 5 years when I was 25 and I cried for weeks.  I loved him.  It just wasn’t going to work out (different situation, he had actually decided he did want to get married and THANK GOD I didn’t do that). 

Anyway – take care of yourself!  Eat the ice cream, get your nails done, go for a walk, pet a puppy, whatever you have to do.  Cry it out, get past it.  Mourn over what you had.  Then put your big girl pants on and start living the rest of your life.  You have so much to look forward to!  There IS someone out there for you, whether it takes you 2 months or 20 years to find him.  He’ll be the one who realizes he doesn’t want to spend one more day without you. 

Post # 25
1149 posts
Bumble bee

@NickiBee:  I am so sorry this happened. I was really rooting for you.

I hope some view this as a cautionary tale and at least learn from your experiences.

I am sure that moving forward you will have plenty of blessing.

Post # 26
189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry for this happening to you and that you are starting over at 29, but better now than later. But the one thing that I was thinking the entire time reading your post was how magnificent it is that you had enough respect for yourself and strength to let him go, especially before Valentine’s day. Way to go girl!!!! I love reading inspiring stories like yours. Go girl power! 

You will learn so much about yourself from this experience and be sooo much better off. I know it doesn’t feel like it right now but I bet you have an even better reward coming from being such a strong woman. Best wishes!

Post # 27
802 posts
Busy bee

@NickiBee:  Sooooo impressed with your decisiveness! But the light switch moments are sure a clear indicator that your answer to happiness lies with someone else. Wishing you all the very best and looking forward to seeing you back here soon with a happy story to share!

Post # 28
2041 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@NickiBee:  You are so strong and so amazing for being able to do what you did. My marriage ended before I turned 31, and it was the most painful experience I had ever gone through. However, it was the best thing I could do for myself. Now I’m engaged to such an amazing man who teaches me more and more about love every day. You will find a man who will love you deeply and can’t wait to be married to you. Believe me. ((Hugs))

Post # 29
3968 posts
Honey bee

@NickiBee:  I’m proud of you for walking!  I did a similar thing when I was 29!  Walked away from the man I thought I’d spend my life with and spent pretty much my entire 20’s with.  It sucked and was difficult – but it WILL get better and you are capable of loving deeply again (that was my biggest question – will I ever find someone I will love as much as him).  I still shake my head at my 20’s but I also am grateful that I didn’t waste my 30’s waiting for him to marry me.)  HUGS.  Kudos for listening to your gut!

Post # 30
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Goddamn tablet is making me mad.horrible grammar on this thing!


I’m so sorry this happened to you, but i’mglad you stuck to your guns and did that for yourself. 


I know you will find someone and it will be perfect for you. 29 is not spinster age yet! 

Post # 31
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think you are doing an amazing thing, and I am in awe of you.  Letting go of him just opens the door for a great person who is also great for you (as in, wants the same things) to come along.  I truly believe that by standing up for yourself and loving yourself, you are sending the message to the world that you are ready for someone else to love you that strongly!

FWIW, I was 29 when I met my Fiance.  I felt a few times in my 20s that I had really missed out by letting this ex or that ex go because better would never come…but it did.  He is way better than all of them, and I am so happy that I let the others go and loved me enough to invite true love into my life.

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