(Closed) Update: So I Walked..

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree!  I “started over” (although something about that phrase is offensive to my feminist sensibilities) when I was 27, heartbroken and absolutely disgusted. But less than a year later I met the best man in the world for me. And I was the one cautious and made him wait for me for a while. 🙂

Good for you and good luck!  You deserve the best. 

Post # 33
1075 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am so sorry it didnt work out but I am extremely proud of you for having the guts to standby your own convictions and do what is best for you. We all have that inner voice that tells us when, what we should do, it may not be what is popular, or what anyone thinks but you have showed strength that far exceeds what he thought.

You put yourself first and what you need and desire in this life and are putting forth an effort to live your life the way God intended with joy and happiness. In every relationship there is a lesson to be learned and what you were suppose to learn apparently you have now it is time to move on.

The man that will come into your life will be ready to move according to the path you both have created and he will sweep you off your feet you will feel as though you are dreaming. Just remember he is not the ex and allow your heart to remain open to receive him.


Post # 34
60 posts
Worker bee

Man, I was rooting for you guys too. You have so much courage and you will find the one for you! I hope you come back to the bee. Your responses were always insightful!

Post # 35
1410 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@NickiBee:  You’re a strong woman for sticking to your guns, and knowing that this was not the right person for you. It takes courage to face pain and still go through with your plan because you know it’s for the best. Hang in there, you’re on the right road to happiness. 

Post # 36
1929 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

You should be so proud of yourself!!   It is so hard to see how many women on here the their boyfriends string them along.  Good for you for taking care of yourself and knowing you deserve more.  When you find it, you will know that it really should never be so hard.  

Post # 37
5191 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Just sending some hugs. I ended a long term relationship shortly after turning 29. It was a rather wretched break-up. 4 months later I met Mr. LK and we were married after a bit more than 2 years together. I say this just to let you know that there is hope… lots of it. Give yourself some time to be sad, and then get busy living your life to its fullest. The right guy will show up at exactly the right time, and it will be amazing.

Post # 38
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Congrats on the walk!!

Some of the best decisions are made when changing the direction drastically. You’re doing yourself a favor.

I walked away and two years later, I found the love of my life. Things happen for a reason. If it wasn’t for how crappy the ex was, I wouldn’t have moved faaaar away to get out of his line of sight. Then I wouldn’t have met Fiance and who knows where I’d be now.

Good for you, girlie! I’m so proud of you for making a good decision about your life.

Post # 39
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Good for you! Don’t be afraid to get back out there once you’re ready.  There’s someone out there for you.

Post # 40
632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

So happy you are putting yourself first! And don’t worry about your age – I found my love right before I turned 32 😉

Take care of yourself in the next few months.  I always recommend getting massages during a breakup – I’d miss human touch and comfort (I lived away from my family) and so sometimes a massage would be the only time I was touched that week! Plus, you know, massages are awesome. 

You are so strong and good things are coming your way!

Post # 41
158 posts
Blushing bee

@NickiBee:  I’m sorry that it didn’t work out, but don’t worry about what could have been.   Take it from me – I’m 33 and “waiting” but I’m much more confident (less desperate because I know my worth) in regard to my relationship now than I would have been in my 20’s.

 I’m glad you realized your worth and moved on.  Many women don’t and end up being strung along for years being blind the truth.  You’re still young and don’t have any permanent ties to him so you can start fresh again and when you meet the next guy who values you as much as you do him, this relationship will be a distant memory.  You sound very strong and mature.  I wish you the best 🙂

Post # 42
802 posts
Busy bee

I’m loving the messages on here from those who met their SOs in their 30s – mostly because that will be me if I walk, and because NickiBee had the courage to do so. Still so impressed by her!

@Sunchick19:  Agree – I hope she inspires some people (maybe even including me, I don’t know)!

Post # 43
46 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am so proud of you!  You are showing yourself a lot of love and respect.  I am sure the right man will come into your life soon—-someone who will cherish you and will give you what you need.

One of my fave lines from a relationship blog:

 If being with and loving you means I can’t love me, I’ll choose me

Post # 44
461 posts
Helper bee

Girlfriend, you got balls. *hugs* You are SO brave. It is SO hard to walk away from something like that.

On behalf of women around the world, thank you. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for being an inspiration. And mostly thank you for showing us to never settle for less than what we deserve. A lot of people talk the talk, but few walk the walk!

Bigger and better things are on their way to you, sweetheart. You had to close this door for the door of your dreams to open up. Focus on yourself, heal, and have fun. You will be awesome!!!!

Post # 45
1015 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@NickiBee:  Best of luck to you.  I walked last year under similar circumstances (just a few weeks shy of 29); after I picked myself back up I started dating my Fiance who proposed to me after a whirlwind romance and we’re getting married late this year.  So just because this long relationship didn’t work out for you doesn’t mean you’ll be single and unmarried forever!

Spend some time taking care of yourself and being good to yourself, and more good things will happen to you later!

Post # 46
777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@NickiBee:  Proud of you for walking, Nicki. I walked out of a bullshit 8 year marriage, and I was 31. I still hope that one day I might have a kid, but I’m willing to accept that if it happens before I’m married, maybe it was meant to happen. Good luck, and please consider keeping in touch on here, even if it’s just to let the rest of us concerned Bees know you’re gonna be ok. Hugs to you!

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