- 9 years ago
OP – You said, “God how am I going to go through all this again???!!! I am panicking, I can’t do this everyone….. I’ve feel devastated…..he’s the only one who Ii’ve thought is sthe ‘one’, the only one I ever wanted to marry, the only one who made me want children and a future.”
Breaking up will hurt – there’s simply no way around that – but it sounds like staying with him might hurt a lot more in the long run. Don’t be afraid to do what’s right for you, because you deserve so much better than this.
To be blunt, breaking an engagement is less painful than the alternatives you are facing: being married to someone who doesn’t show love for you, living in fear of your husband, and/or eventually getting a divorce from someone who doesn’t seem to respect you.
One of my best friends went through a divorce from a husband who was emotionally abusive and threatening. It was emotionally excruciating for her to end their marriage, but she is so much happier with her life now that he’s out of it. She is single and still looking for “the one,” but she is better off without someone who doesn’t treat her right.
janetsnakehole “i have had “the one” feelings about more than one guy. i was always wrong before because i’d never had anyone who treated me as well as Fiance.”
THIS. I’m 25 and have had that feeling before with someone who I now realize is a loser, and my aforementioned friend had that feeling with her psycho ex. You thought he was “the one,” but he’s acted in ways that make you doubt that. Listen to your doubts. There are so many men out there who would never, ever make you feel unloved or unsafe or disrespected. Please don’t marry this guy when there are so many wonderful men out there who could make you so much happier!!!