(Closed) Update, the email truth!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m glad this worked out for you and that you feel better. But honestly, after reading your previous posts, your Fiance sounds like an immature jerk. Please don’t just talk about wedding plans but about marriage, communication, respecting one another (and assuming the best, not the worst! does he not trust you?), doing what’s best for both of you, etc. It doesn’t sound like he cares very much about your feelings or opinions–or at least he has a funny way of showing it. Are you sure he’s mature enough to commit to a lifelong relationship?

Post # 5
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sheilamelo:  This is probably going to sound harsh, but this is a guy who wants you to quit your dream job and move so that he can go to school…and expects you to pay for his education.  This seems immature and jerky.

I’m glad you’re working on things, I really am.  It’s not like I’m saying this can never work out.  But being unable to compromise is a sign of immaturity, so like I said I’m glad you’re working on things and I hope he is too.

I’m also glad that he understands that you’re not trying to undermine his family!  I kind of wish he’d never accused you of it, though.

Post # 6
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2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s a pretty big red flag that you have to print out emails to prove to him that his own mother approves of your wedding plans.  First, he should trust you.  Second, if he thinks you did some planning without her approval, why can’t he ask his own mother himself??  I read back through your past posts and I’m going to tell you the best advice my mother gave me when it came to relationships:  “it never gets any better than when you’re dating. That’s when they’re trying their hardest and trying to impress you.”  If he’s already of the mindset that it’s his way or the highway, then when you get married you’re agreeing with his sentiments.

Post # 7
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2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I tend to agree with what the others are saying….

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