(Closed) Update, the Wedding (and relationship) Is Off

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 377
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Bless your heart gf….he is a total jerk (and that is putting it nicely).  Prayers are with you and always remember that everything happens for a reason.  He did you a favor…time truly heals and you will get through this!!!

Post # 379
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@MissMelly:  Being slow in the healing process is okay.  There were 4 years in between the time my HS b/f broke up with me and when I started dating my husband.  And can I tell you what?  Those were an amazing four years.  I focused on myself and what made ME happy.  I traveled, went out with friends, met lots of nice and very cute boys, and just enjoyed life.  Did I miss my ex sometimes??  Of course!  But as time went on, I was able to see that it just wasn’t right.  And when I started dating my husband, I realized that my last relationship REALLY wasn’t right.  It took a little bit, but I found someone who truely makes me a better person, who supports me, and who listens to me when I am upset about something, and doesn’t just brush it off and put the blame on me.  

 

Its okay to miss him.  But now its time to take care of you.

Post # 380
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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@MissMelly:  God has someone better for you.  You can’t see it now and it feels like it will hurt like this forever but the healing process has already begun.  Just take one step at at time. There will be days that you take two backwards for each one you take forward.

Post # 382
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Good for you! That’s a start and  I’m sure it feels good! Everytime you feel your breaking just remember that photo and that he’s not what you thought he was….But you will see how everything will start falling into place for you

Post # 383
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@MissMelly:  Good for you!  That is truly a step in the right direction towards healing.  Stay strong, hon!

Post # 384
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@MissMelly:  Good for you!! That is progress and I am very proud of you for deleting that email without even looking at it. That took a lot of courage and I know I wouldn’t have been able to do that even now if I recieved an email from my ex husband! I admire how you are dealing with all of this. 

Post # 385
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356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wowwww!!! You deleted the email without reading it?!!! Good for YOU!!!!  That is awesome progress. 

Also, if he was just completely over you, he wouldn’t be acting out and making out with girls in public.  He’s purposely being a doushbag.  Perhaps trying to do things to make himself feel like he’s over you. 

Good for you for ignoring it and him.  NOT worth your time.

Post # 386
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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@MissMelly:  WOW! Good for you. I would have had to read it out of sheer curiosity, I am far too nosey. (but I never would have replied)

This is therefore a good reason to actually keep some mutual friends on FB because otherwise you never would have seen the photo. 

*hugs* You are moving on so well and yes, there will be days when you may feel like you’ve gone backwards, but overall you will move forward to a much better life. 

Post # 388
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@MissMelly:  omg this is a huuuge step! delete that email without seeing it, congratulations. 

He didn’t deserve you!!!

congrats again, you are going to get through this!!!!!

Post # 389
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

A man that is capable of feeling so strongly and in love and at the flip of a switch becomes someone so cold and distant is not a man I would EVER want to be with. This is the type of man that one day decides to pick up and leave a family behind to move on to another life….consider yourself lucky this decision was made prior to the wedding – you saved yourself a much worse heartbreak in the future. Atleast now you are free from the obligation of a family and/or children and can focus on yourself only… focus on healing – take the time to do whatever the hell YOU want to do – no strings attached – listen to music, go to the gym, eat chocolate, go shopping, spend as much time with friends as possible…there is a light at the end of this and you will see it soon! <3

Post # 391
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@MissMelly:  Congrats! You’re getting there. A little bit each day. :o) Stay strong & positive!

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