Update to boyfriend's heirloom ring.posted 3 years ago in Rings
- 2 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
redmango : If they still want you to have it, I think you should get the marquise reset as a halo pendant. You like the look and as a pendant it won’t be too big. I agree with you that on a finger it would likely be way too much. So if your fiance is up for it, get the ring you like, reset the diamond as a necklace, even wear it on your wedding day. Everyone happy (hopefully)
- 2 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
I think you need to get which ever one YOU feel makes YOU the happiest. Coming from someone who has upgraded her ring a couple of times now, to go up in size, I would KILL for a 2 carat any cut LOL, BUTTTTT you need to do what will make you happy, this is the most special and, lets be honest, expensive piece of jewelry you may ever own (at least for me it is) Recently, I went from a 1.37 carat round to a 1.50 carat marquise. I NEVER in a million years would have ever willing gone for a marquise. I never liked the cut, but I wanted to move up in size and was open to shapes other than rounds (hint hint I wanted a pear) My jeweler told me he had a marquise and I cringed, but I am sure glad I took a look at it because then the seed was planted LOL. This site and everyone’s pictures and posts really helped me move forward with the marquise (willingly LOL). My Jewelers wife (She too is a jeweler and is the epitome of style and luxury and diamonds) She said something to me that just really pushed me to go with the marquise she said “I am kinda over rounds right now, I am kicking myself for not buying up all the marquise when people were practically giving them away, they’re so back in style and will be for a very long time and I am so excited about that”!!!!! IDK, that just really stuck with me. That and when I was in limbo still I did a ton of research on the Marquise and the history on the cut is fun and the “rareness”, of this cut is appealing to me. Not to mention you have an opportunity to have a 2+carat ahhh I would go for it. But again I am someone who will probably not keep this stone forever, but I am not sure I will leave the marquise cut. Now that I have one, I am so obsessed with it. Originally it was in a halo pendant but Im super into solitaires so I had him set it in a classic Tiffany style solitaire setting and will be searching for some fun bands to go with it. So if your mother in law is looking for someone to take that 2 carat marquise off her hands… right here, I will gladly take that puppy off her hands. LOL JK. Seriously though, PLEASE go for the ring that makes you happy! Do not go with what others want you to get. Something else I find fun about the marquise is you can pair any other cut as an accent and there are a million ways you can position it etc. These boards and everyone’s pics helped me so much I am new to this site, but I literally typed in the search bar “marquise” “solitaire” “cushions” etc and had so many pics and ideas it really helped. Good luck please keep us posted! Oh and do you know the specifics? Clarity, Cut, Color, etc… I will post a couple pics of mine just for reference because it helped me so much, I will apologize for the jumbo pics in advance.
- 2 years ago
Update to the update:
TLDR: I am giving the marquise to my boyfriend’s sister.
Over the last couple of weeks I’ve learned a lot more about my boyfriend’s sister’s relationship with their great aunt. The great aunt was my boyfriend’s grandmother’s twin sister. His grandmother died when he was rather young and this great aunt was more like a grandmother to them. The great aunt gave his sister – the one who was pining over the marquise – several rings but I think my boyfriend was given the most expensive one in the marquise. While all my boyfriend’s siblings (and cousins) did a lot for the aunt, his sister was probably the closest to her. I think my boyfriend was given the marquise because his sister was already married when she passed and he was the next oldest of the cousins.
My boyfriend and I talked a lot about it and while I was flattered that the diamond was offered to me, I said I felt better letting his sister have it, as she was obviously very close to the aunt and it would mean a lot to her. I again reiterated that I would contribute financially to my ring, he said he had already put the money aside before he knew about the marquise. I also told him that we could look into a moissanite or an Amora Gem in order to save some money, but he has said again and again not to worry about the cost.
I also had noticed that fortunately his family was not as vocal about wanting us to take the diamond. His mom actually apologized for coming across like I had to accept it. She inherited her mother’s round diamond (which itself was around 2 carats) and she rarely wears it because she feels like it’s so big, so she completely understood why I would feel uncomfortable wearing such a large ring every day. She thought it was a very nice gesture that we offered it to his sister and my fears of his family thinking I was rejecting the diamond (and thus them) were unfounded.
In return, his sister is giving me one of the rings she inherited from the aunt, which I will pick up this weekend. She received a 11 stone diamond band which she had reset into a prong setting as the original was in a wide channel set ring. She was so touched that I offered her the marquise and she is going to put it in a pendant so she could wear it all the time. (She wanted to use it for an engagement ring but she knew he husband would be hurt if she did that).
In all, I think this is a win-win situation.
- 2 years ago
This is weird – I just wrote a response and it’s not showing.
In a nutshell, I decided to give the marquise to my boyfriend’s sister.
I found out that the sister was pretty close with their great aunt, who was their grandmother’s twin sister. Their grandmother died when they were young and since the aunt did not have any children of her own, she was close to my boyfriend’s family and his cousins.
I don’t think his sister was given the marquise to begin with because she was already married. I discussed this time and time again with my boyfriend, and I had noticed in the meantime that he, and his family for that matter, were not quite as insistant on wanting me to take it.
I talked to his mom as I was afraid of his family seeing me as rejecting them if I didn’t want to use the marquise for my e-ring. I explained that the size was a big uncomfortable for me, and fortunately, his mom could see my point of view. She has her own mother’s 2 carat-ish round diamond and she rarely wears it because she feels it’s too much.
I told my boyfriend again that I would want to pay for my ring and he said absoultely not. I also said I would be willing to go with something less expensive and again he said no, not to worry about the cost at all. I also noticed that he has been looking at rings online as I could see it in the windows he left open.
In return for the marquise, his sister has given me a diamond band that she had reset. It was in a channel setting and she had it reset into a shared prong setting. I am going to pick it up this weekend. She was very touched that he gave her the marquise and is going to put it in a pendant as she wanted to use it for her own e-ring, but didn’t want to offend her husband.
I feel relieved that things worked out.
- 2 years ago
Wonderful! What a great way to make your way into the family – you still have a ring from them (are you going to wear that as your wedding band? Just curious) and his sister gets the ring that she wanted so bad. I’m sure they feel that you’re very kind and mature for doing this, and it seems as if your soon-to-be-fiance is happy to get you your beautiful cushion; especially because you handled this situation with such grace.