- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2018
I thought this would be easier than going back and adding a new a comment.
Brief summary from my last post. Maid/Matron of Honor was overwhelmed with planning my shower and was update the other BMs did not offer to help her. There was alot of communication issues between them leaving me in the middle of their drama.
My shower was a few weeks ago and was absolutely perfect. I enjoyed every second of it and truly appreciated all of the hard work my Maid/Matron of Honor and mom put into it. My Maid/Matron of Honor was still upset after the shower because the BMs didn’t help her with any of the planning which is a whole other story. I found out from one of the girls that my Maid/Matron of Honor had sent them all a nasty text message demanding they split the shower costs between all of them and sent them each a handwritten bill to pay. I was so upset and offended that it came to that between them. As I had mentioned in my first post my mom and other families provided all of the food, favors, prizes, cake, plates, napkins, and etc. This meant Maid/Matron of Honor was only responsible for decorations and games. The bill she sent the girls was outrageously high like almost expecting everyone to pay for everything and her not to have any of the costs. Some of the things she included in the cost are things that she ended up keeping for personal decorations. I had to do damage control with very angry BMs who stated they offered Maid/Matron of Honor help but she never responded to any messages. They also stated no one had mentioned anything about a bachelorette and they were confused as to when we were doing that. I asked Maid/Matron of Honor the girls were asking about the bachelorette and she stated that she did not want to deal with them after the shower drama and she did not want to do anything for my bachelorette which was fine but stung.
I ended up waiting a week to ask my Maid/Matron of Honor about the bills and the messages because it truly hurt my feelings. She said that she told all of her friends and family that no one would help her and she shouldered so much cost. Umm what?! and everyone told her to confront my bridal party. I explained how the messages rubbed them the wrong one and she started name calling the other BMs. The girls have all contacted me about the bachelorette because they are scared to message Maid/Matron of Honor so I had to ask her once again and she said the same thing that she doesn’t want to deal with them and made it all about her. My BMs were all upset that we weren’t doing a bachelorette so I am doing a small weekend getaway with one of the girls who will be in town because the weekend we all planned passed. It is not about the party in general but its all weird.
I feel hurt that she felt the need to contact them and create more drama. I would get it if she did the shower herself but with my mom shouldering 90% of the costs if not more how can you act like this?