Post # 1
I just wanted to post an update to the waiting rollercoaster that I was on only a year ago. Long story short my ex an I had been living together 4 years (talking marriage basically that entire time) and at the end of the day he just kept making promises and kept putting it off and I decided, essentially, that it just wasn’t worth the anxiety and the hurt that I was feeling and I left. It is very hard to explain, especially since I was so absolutely devastated at first but once the shock wore off and I had a chance to process I cannot describe the RELIEF that I felt. I honestly didn’t know it at the time, but I was so unhappy. I loved him so much, and I was so invested in the future that we planned that I couldn’t see how miserable I was. He’s a wonderful person, he really is but he wasn’t MY person. I didn’t realize how hard I was working and I think obsessing about the whole marriage thing was really just a distraction cause I didnt want it to be over. But I can’t begin to tell you how happy I am that I walked away.
That was a year ago. And honestly it’s been one of the best years of my life. A funny thing happened not long after I split from the man I thought I was going to marry and that was falling in love with one of my best and oldest friends. We had been close friends for over ten years however we hadn’t spoken much the past couple years. We were both in relationships (which we all know takes up a lot of time) and he was moving around a lot but we got back in touch and everything just fell into place. It is so EASY. Not for one second have I ever felt like I had to work at it. It helps that we’ve known each other so long but it blew my mind how easily we went from being amazing friends to being completely in love. Every second I’m with him is completely amazing and I can’t believe I feel this way. I didn’t know love could feel like this. He makes me feel so absolutely adored it’s overwhelming sometimes.
Now I do not consider myself waiting just yet (it’s only been 9 months) but I cannot describe the difference in how I feel about this man. I loved my ex, completely. I really did but it wasn’t like this. I can’t explain it.
I’m going on a bit too long here but I guess what I wanted to say is try and know yourself and don’t ever settle. If you have any doubts or if the person you’re with is making you feel anything less than completely adored then consider taking a step back. I am so unbelievably glad that I made the choice that I did.
Post # 2
Great update! I’m glad to hear things are going well and you’ve found so much happiness!
Post # 3
I’m glad you’ve found someone special! I think getting out of a bad relationship and realizing the freedom and opportunities people have is one of the best things about a breakup. I’m glad you’ve found a good so.
Post # 4
That’s wonderful news! Congratulations.
Post # 5
Good for you! I’m glad to hear a positive update and that you’re happy!
Post # 6
I am so happy for you! I have had some pretty bad relationships, but I was always afraid of change. I finally ended up with my first crush, and our relationship has been bliss. We have had minor hiccups in the road, but who doesn’t? I couldn’t ask for a better relationship to be honest. When you know, you just know.
I am glad we both found someone that is perfect for us! Thanks for sharing your story!
Post # 7
That’s awesome! Welcome back! I had a similar situation happen to me (got engaged, fought all the time, 20 days before the wedding he couldn’t do it, we called it off, 4 months later I met a better guy and now I’m much happier with him and kinda not yet waiting) I’m so glad it worked out for the better 😊
Post # 8
I havent followed the previous thread but oh my gosh.. Im so happy for you bee!! Seems as if you have found true happiness❤️ You deserve the best!
Post # 10
You ladies are the sweetest!
Post # 11
Congrats, Bee! What a wonderful story. My story is similar. I was devastated when my ex husband ended our marriage of 10 years. He was my best friend and it was like a death to be cut off so completely when I was certain that we would be together for life. But a funny thing happened to me, too. I had a great year (after I picked myself up from daily crying) and really lived my life. A year after my ex moved out, I met a wonderful man and things are amazing. Never thought I’d find someone as good for me as my ex, but ended up doing so much better. Good luck to you!
Post # 12
Great story! I was with a guy before my current SO for two years. We talked marriage constantly, even agreed on a date that he would propose and we had matching promise rings that we wore on our ring fingers that were engraved on the inside with our initials. He cheated on me well over 6 times and was controlling and all around abusive. I finally had enough and actually left him on the day he was going to propose(found out later he wasn’t actually going to and was leading me on) and I found my SO and I am so relieved. We have been together for a year and living together for about 5 or 6 months. He is so easy to be with and to communicate with and has done a great job of reassuring me in the beginning of our relationship since I was so damaged from the other one. He’s been hinting at proposing soon and the thought of spending the rest of my life with my soulmate, best friend and love of my life is so warming in my heart and soul. I’m happy for you and I hope a proposal is on your way soon!
Post # 13
What an awesome update- your happiness radiates through your words, wishing you both all the best 🙂