Post # 1
So, a month ago my SO gave me a shirt for our An. (See my rant here)
Well, he wanted to make it up to me, and talked about suprising me sometime this month with a new present, which I just got today. He talked it up, and I waited….and waited….and waited…and I broke down and asked for a hint. Here are the hints he gave me:
- It’s something I know you have wanted
- I’ve planned this out for a long time
- It’s not something you can buy in a store
- It’s something that everyone has seen, but you
Well what do you think I thought it was? My mom was SURE that this was it. Hell, so was I.
So he gives me a card first that he handmade that says lots of lovely things about our relationship, and that he can’t believe how long it’s been and how he can’t wait to see what happiness the rest of our lives bring
It’s a canvas picture of us to hang on the wall. It’s not even of a picture of us that I like. I actually hate that picture of us. And now I have to look at it everyday and pretend I like it.
Oh I lied and said that I love it, don’t get me wrong. I’m just-hurt? – frustrated? – I don’t know. Somewhere in between
I feel like he’s toying with me, and when he does propose I’m not going to believe him
edited becasue my spelling sucks
Post # 3
If I got all the hints, I woild think it was a ring too. I would feel proper frustrated as well. I don’t have any advice I’m really sorry though, you must be gutted.
Post # 4
He doesn’t sound like a great gift giver, and to use a picture you hate…
At least he was trying to do something romantic and thoughtful.
Post # 5
Ugh. I’m sorry. Guys can be clueless. If you want I’ll go punch him in the face for you?
If my SO had given me hints like that I didn’t get a ring I probably would have started bawling on the spot, especially if he had had the ring for such a long time.
Post # 6
Oh man, I would sit him down and have a chat about seeing things from your point of view when he gives you hints like that. I would be so frustrated too!
Post # 7
@discodance: Yep, punching him in the face came to my mind too!
I would have cried.
Post # 8
I say just wait it out a little longer…hoping for a sparkly present for you soon!
Post # 10
Wow. That is probably one of the most insensitive things I could imagine a guy doing.
Post # 11
I told my Fiance (before we were engaged) if he ever gave me a tiny box with earrings or a necklace in it for a holiday or birthday I would kill him. We’d been together a while and owned a home, I knew a proposal was in our future I just didn’t know when so I told him if he decided to get me other jewelry that he had to make sure it was in a big box.
Sorry about your non proposal gift 🙁 he seems like he meant well with the sweet gesture of a canvas but guys can definitely be a little clueless at times (especially gift giving ones).
Post # 12
I think I would have exploded… I’m sorry 🙁
Post # 13
It does seem insensitive. Those are CLEARLY clues about a ring, not a piece of “art”. I’m trying to picture myself in your exact shoes. Hmm, yeah, I’d probably burst into tears. Are you going to talk to him about it?
Post # 14
I do not think your SO is at all clueless. I think he absolutely is toying with you and that he gave you those clues specifically to make you think that the gift was a ring.
For whatever reason, some people love to wield power over other people and to watch them squirm in situations that the first person sets up to provoke a desired reaction from the other person. If his motive was to tease you, make you think you were going to be receiving a ring, create frustration and disappointment that you did not receive a ring, and THEN give you a ring (shortly following), I could understand his wanting to use such a tactic to create anticipation and surprise. However, if he’s just doing this to be deliberately mean, because he finds it fun, that definitely would be troubling. You’ll know soon enough when you see whether or not there is a forthcoming fulfillment of all of those deliberate clues if your Fiance actually produces a ring.
Post # 15
He did this AFTER you expressed frustration that your anniversary gift was a shirt?! That’s just cruel. It’s actually kind of juvenile. In all seriousness, how old is he?? I’m sorry you got your hopes up. I don’t know how you held it together..
Post # 16
@MissFireFlower: I think it was a really mean joke, but it sounds like something my SO would do so I guess I’m kind of partial that boys just don’t understand how girls are.
But if his thinking is like my SO’s, then after having that much suspense, he’s probably going to pull out something special soon. Or if not, you need to talk to him about how you felt. So wait until the newness of the “present” wears off, and tell him how much that was really jerky of him! lol. I wish you luck 🙁