(Closed) Update to Would You Attend a Wedding That is Not having a Reception……

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy bee

That is perfectly acceptable!  🙂

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

sounds good to me!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

much better 🙂

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Who are you planning on telling this to?  Why weren’t they invited to the ceremony & reception in the first place?  I just find it odd.  It comes off like, you don’t really want them there, but you’re allowing them to watch the ceremony anyway.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think this would be fine. But I think people would like to have the opportunity to congratulate you after the ceremony. You could do this with a recieving line. Or if it’s really small just make a point to try to briefly speak with and hug each guest. Or have you thought about a super cheap cake (grocery sheet cake) and punch mini-reception in the fellowship hall after the ceremony.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Okay, I guess that makes sense.  It’s worded nicely enough.  I’m just of the opinion that it’s your day and you should only share it with the people you actually want there.  I also think it’s pretty rude for people to invite themselves by saying, “I heard it was in April, send me an invite.”

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@IrvingButterfly:  I think the best way to go about this is to have the church put your wedding in the bulletin and indicate that the reception will be family only.  Since churches are typically public places, anyone who wants to come to the ceremony can come.  That way, you don’t have to actively call and tell people they aren’t invited, because that can be kind of rude.  If it’s just public knowledge, via the bulletin, then you won’t be struck down with a bolt of lightning from the Etiquette Police.

Maybe put something like… :

“The marriage ceremony for IrvingButterfly and MrIrvingButterfly will be held here at New Life Church on April 27th at 3pm and all are welcome to witness their union.  The family will be holding a private reception at an undisclosed time and location.”

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@DaneLady:  this. I think sending any details regarding the ceremony to individual people risks not going over well, but an announcement in a church bulletin is a much more suitable way to notify the general community.  

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think that’s fine.  You might even want to get a few platters of cookies and some punch for people to nosh on while they chat and congratulate you afterwards.  Some of your family would probably even help bake cookies. 

I totally get where you’re coming from – if I was still living in my hometown and had gotten married at my parents’ church a ton of people would have just come to the wedding to support us and not expected to be invited to the reception. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

That is much better!

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