update walking away from the final ultimatum

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 46
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740 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Forthewalk has it DEAD right. Every single thing she’s said. STOP ANSWERING HIM. Delete social media. Ignore his texts. MOST IMPORTANTLY CHANGE THE LOCKS. If he is threatening you, take those threats seriously. I was one of those women like “oh I hate him and he’s horrible, but it’d never come to that. He’d never hurt me, we’ve been married for 7 years after all’ and then, when he felt he had lost control, all hell broke loose. Please, bee. Take it seriously. Change the locks. 

 The hardest thing to do is to finally stop answering. I know that because for the longest time he’s been the one you’ve answered, jumped for – but now that’s over. You need to get that discomfort over as quickly as possible. Rip off that bandaid and move forward, for the sake of your son. Then, get therapy. Best thing I ever did for myself. You’re worth a little self love, and so is your son. 

Post # 49
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2113 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

stayingforthepromise :  wait it sucks that you can’t delete your accounts or that you can’t blast him on them?

Post # 50
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10121 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

You’re still responding to him.

Post # 51
Member
726 posts
Busy bee

He may not have proposed when you wanted him to, but that does NOT justify your behaviour. You’re acting so immaturely it is actually unbelievable!

Grow up, treat this guy with some respect for your sons sake. If the only thing he’s ever done wrong to you is not propose, then he does not deserve the emotional abuse (Yes I said it) that you are putting him through.

You should care about your son enough to go about this in the most mature way possible, but right now all I see is you throwing tantrum after tantrum. Break up with him if you want to, but focusing on things like trying to take your son away from him, it sounds like you are trying to use your child as a pawn, that needs to stop.

No wonder he hasn’t proposed yet.

Post # 53
Member
942 posts
Busy bee

stayingforthepromise :  “because I’m dumb dumb dumb & I love him and this is rejection is so hard for me to accept”

seriously. you’re asking for this.

Post # 54
Member
726 posts
Busy bee

stayingforthepromise :  The way you speak to him, yell at him, constantly send him insulting texts, and guilt trip/manipulate him to proposing is emotional abuse. This is not how a mature adult acts when they don’t get their way. You SAY you love him, but I honestly see zero love in the horrible way you speak about him. 

Post # 55
Member
571 posts
Busy bee

He wanted to propose with a freeze dried lizard, that would have been the end for me right there.

Post # 56
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5210 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

macpartyoftwo :  This. 

Just read the thread and what a mess. Maybe the baby can go to a stable grandparent//hopefully.

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