(Closed) UPDATE: Would you invite someone who doesn't believe in marriage?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

R sounds like a complete asshole.  If the non-marriage-believing friend acted like that, oh hell no.

But I would invite a friend who didn’t believe in marriage to my wedding, because it’s still an important  time in my life, and that friend is still someone I want to share that moment with.  


He sounds like someone who is very controlling and borderline fundamentalist about everything, reading through your original thread.  It’s hard to be friends with that type of person if you don’t share their beliefs 100%.

Post # 4
4854 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sounds like you’re much better off. You are both being more than reasonable. 

Post # 5
6040 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

I think it was an asshole move on this friends part to respond that way. It’s fine if he doesn’t believe in marriage but a simple decline for the invite would have been enough. He should keep this kind of judgement to himself. I think at most he should have done it in a more tactful way. If I was in his position and was really not supportive of marriage I would have first asked for the date of the wedding and then when the bride responded I would have simply said “I have a prior committment that day”. that way I wouldn’t let them waste time on an invite for me but I wouldn’t come off as a dick either. His beliefs are his own and that’s fine, but to so rudely put them out there is just a lack of respect for the feelings and beliefs of others.

So no I wouldn’t have invited him after that, I would have used that invite for someone else that I wanted at my wedding that I otherwise would have had to cut.

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