- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015
Here’s the original thread. Well, this is no longer an issue. Neither my bride friend, A, nor I, when the time comes, will be inviting this “friend,” R. I put it in quotation marks as neither of us consider him one anymore.
After we read through y’all responses, A decided to put the ball back in his court and told him (via Skype, live in different cities now) that while they want to have him there, she understands if he doesn’t feel comfortable coming and they’ll be fine regardless of what he chooses to RSVP. Then R went off on how that wasn’t a real answer and A needs to make a decision. As she’s trying to explain that the invitation itself means she wants him there and he can choose to not come, he starts on how awful a friend A is for inviting his ex also (bad breakup over a year ago. We met him through her, she’s a bridesmaid.). She only told him so that ex’s presence wouldn’t be a surprise on the day of.
Now, A is upset because she’s being attacked for trying to be considerate. She then asks for me to help mediate. This was a bad idea because according to R, I’m just as bad a friend and person for remaining friends with his ex (who we’d known longer) and how we should have taken his side after the breakup instead of remaining neutral. R then goes on to insult us, our FIs, and our friends because only douchebags like us would remain friends with a douchebag like her. At this point, both A and I are over this conversation, over going out of our way to cater to his feelings and having to walk on eggshells. R finishes off his rant by saying that A and her FI will get divorced within a year and that my FI will never actually marry me.
Needless to say, we won’t be having him at our weddings nor around us in general. On the one hand, it’s always sad when a friendship ends. We did really like him and enjoy his company. On the other hand, we’ll all be glad to not have the extra drama associated with it.