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posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1813 posts
Buzzing bee

have you let him know you don’t want a big ring?  or that you could chip in?

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) sorry your birthday didn’t go as expected. But your watch sounds really pretty.  A lot of guys don’t like to take out finance plans to get the girl of their dreams a ring because they want to own it outright. if his mom is in the business though he may feel additional pressure to get you something spectacular.  sorry you’re going through this and i think if you being forthcoming will make you feel better perhaps you need to just let him know what’s going on and leave it at that.  good luck!

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think you need to sit him down and talk about your expectations.  Maybe he thinks you want a yowsa of a ring, and feels that he really needs to spend all that money on it.  My hubs knows me well, and knows I would have knocked him upside the head if he spent a lot fo money on my ring.  He ended up spending less that $1500 on it, and people swear it cost thousands, but who am I to correct them?? Wink

Point it, you guys may be on different pages.  Talk calmly about it, and suggest you two go out and look at rings so he can get a feel for what you like in a smaller price range. Try to make it light hearted and cute, and hopefully it will happen soon

Post # 8
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think you need to sit him down and talk about your expectations.  Maybe he thinks you want a yowsa of a ring, and feels that he really needs to spend all that money on it.  My hubs knows me well, and knows I would have knocked him upside the head if he spent a lot fo money on my ring.  He ended up spending less that $1500 on it, and people swear it cost thousands, but who am I to correct them?? Wink

Point it, you guys may be on different pages.  Talk calmly about it, and suggest you two go out and look at rings so he can get a feel for what you like in a smaller price range. Try to make it light hearted and cute, and hopefully it will happen soon

Post # 10
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4023 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah, I would just sit him down and tell him what you really want and how you are feeling. And yes, jewelry stores have financing available and layaway and stuff! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Good luck with it! I feel for ya!

Post # 11
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Seriously – the “I don’t think a ring is a Christmas present” is a bunch of BS. LOL.

I can say that, because I heard the EXACT same line from my FH, and it ticked me off big time.

Don’t worry, you are not a B****. You want what you want and can’t help it. It doesn’t mean that you still don’t appreciate the gifts that you receive in the meantime! How long have you all been together?

Post # 13
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5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t think that you are being a b***h at all. My bf and myself have the same mentally about proposing for Christmas as your bf. We want the proposal to be seperate from the holiday. (So I think he may propose before or after Christmas)

Who knows, he may be working on a ring for you and trying to throw you off. I have always used the honest approach with my bf. I never hinted because he would never get it. LOL I suggested going look for rings together and let him decide based upon what he could afford because he is paying for it. Just suggest going ring shopping so that the both of you can get an idea of what you really like (because sometimes you don’t know what you like until you try it on).

P.S. There are Christmas sales in the stores right now so you may find a deal that is too good to pass up!!!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

You’re welcome ๐Ÿ™‚

Just hold on, because it might very well be coming soon, and what trugem said is true. He COULD just be saying that to throw you off, but it also might really be the way he feels about it, and how funny would it be to get a proposal on MLK day, or Veteran’s day, or memorial day, etc… that’s not associated with romance?!

That would totally be a guy thing to do!

Want to know something? For some reason I was seriously stuck on wanting the proposal to be on a holiday. To me, it was only logical. Holiday = momentous occasion = proposal. Well, let me be the first to tell you that MY logic was not HIS logic. Ticked me off EVERY holiday that rolled around.

Christmas “Maybe I’ll get a ring! That would be a GREAT gift!” but alas, no ring.

New Years “Oh, maybe now’s the time. Signifying a new start with each other in a new year!” Still, no ring.

Valentine’s Day – This was a BIGGIE “OH come ON. I SURELY MUST be getting a RING for V-DAY” Um…nope.

Easter – “OOHH OOHH! A RING WOULD FIT IN AN EGG!!!!” Well, someone must have shot the easter bunny cuz I didn’t even get an EMPTY egg.

See how that works? So, I totally know where you’re coming from ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 15
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@fuschia & queenbee – My Boyfriend or Best Friend just told me the same thing last night!  WTF?  “A ring is not a Christmas Present!”  What?  Knock two birds out with one stone smart one!  I was beside myself, because I am honestly expecting it around Christmas.  And now… this.  It’s not like I want it wrapped and under the tree or anything… but I was hoping he would find some time to propose during the holiday season!  Ahhh Frustration!    

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