Post # 1
Here is the old board is anyone wanted to read….
I did post this on there but i guess no-one has seen it or something…
update – It’s not going to be at our house anymore… thank god!
But i dont want to go to the wedding…. i spoke to my older brother and he told me something that is just horrible! i knew my dad could be a bit annoying and not think about what he says but omg @ what i got told.
When my dad took his soon-to-be wife over to my brothers to meet them… she went off to the toilet and dad leaned over to my brother and said “she may not be that attractive but she has money” my brother juse saw red and yelled in a whispering voice (if you know what i mean) “You are 67yrs old dad… i can’t believe your saying something like that” i took the swear words out of that but yeah… LIKE WTF?!?!?!?! i can’t believe that… when i spoke to mum she said “i’m sorry you have only just started finding out what your father is really like… i feel sorry for that woman, he’s just going to spend all her money”
Not happy…. i’m finding out little things about my dad that i’m hating so much but i can’t say anything to him because when i think about saying something i think about how old he is and that it would upset him and he is my dad and i dont want to do that… ya know?
It was my little brothers 21st the other weekend and i had everyone over at my mums place for a surprise party (my dad and his partner included) and he growled at my stepson for something he hadn’t even done yet… he doesn’t have anything to do with my stepchildren (i dont know why) and he here was growling at him…. he was telling him not to lose something…. but told him like 4 times even after my stepson said yes the first 2 times (he is 10yrs). ARGH that made me mad!
so not really looking forward to the wedding… neither is my big brother and sister-inlaw…… 🙁 I wish i could tell my little brother what dad really says but it would upset him… i think i should because i know dad uses him ALOT… he has found a loop hole to get my little brother to do anything… he says “It’s only a small favor… i’m very disappointed in you” and this is for anything…. even if he asks him pick up potatoe salad he’s “very disappointed in him” I told my mum that and she got teary eyed and said thats a big thing for my little brother… he doesn’t want to be a disappointment 🙁
Post # 3
ok…. no one likes my post?
Post # 4
I’m sorry your dad does that to your lil bro. Does he live with your dad? He is really hurting him emotionally if he’s always telling him that. I would talk w/ your bro & let him know that he’s not a dissappointment. That makes me so sad for him :(.
As far as the wedding, idk if I would go if I were in your situation. Maybe just to spend time with your lil bro?
Post # 5
No my lil brother doesn’t live at home, we are all out on our own… my dad has tried to use his “it’s only a little thing” on me and i’m not like no dad.
Mum actually spoke to my little brother the other day because i had told her wat dad says to him and she let him know that not everyone thinks very highly of our dad and that there are things that he may want to speak about with me or our big brother with.
My little brother is making their wedding cake… he is a chef so it’s not like he is doing something he hates. but then again he isn’t really a cake maker either lol so i’m sure it’ll be a bit hard for him.
I dont want to go and neither does my big brother and his family… even my husband doesn’t want to go and is trying to think of ways to get him out of it lol. but I think it’s something that i will have to go to… suck it up and go.
My husband says that my dad has no idea what the meaning of marriage is, and if that is what the marriage is based on then it won’t last.
I was talking to mum the other day and she was telling me lots of things from the past that i never knew about my dad and then she cried and said that she feels sorry for the lady he is marrying
Post # 6
*slams head against keyboard*
I DONT WANT TO GO…. 🙁 Dad mentioned something he is planning on doing at the ceremony… just as the pastor/celebrant (whatever they are having) asks dad to say I do he said he is going to inhale some heluim from the balloons (god knows why there are balloons…) so that he sounds funny when he says I DO… i told my husband that he it just made him really not want to go… this will be my dads 3rd marriage… i really dont think he is marrying for the right reasons or if he even cares what the right reasons to marry someone is ARGH!
I dont even want to take my camera… this is strange for me because i take my camera everywhere lol… but i dont want to even take photos of this… i probably will but i dont know i’m really not happy and really dont want to go 🙁 I’m so angry at my dad but yet i feel like i have to support him… i mean he doesn’t know how im feeling and i wouldn’t tell him unless he said something to me then i would say something back.
I dont know how to explain this but i feel like i dont want to upset him or do anything to our relationship because he is getting older… does that make sense? I worry that he hasn’t got that much longer in him and i really dont want my last words to him to be bad if you know what i mean
Post # 7
🙁 seems like no one wants to talk about this with me… do i have it in the wrong area or something…. i feel even worse for these feelings i have now that no one wants to talk about it with me 🙁
Bad me 🙁