(Closed) UPDATE: PLEASE READ: Need Advice… found Internet Explorer history :(

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

RUN. You want to MARRY this person? You really do? Because you do realize that marriage will not fix a damn thing and will likely make it much worse… right?

I did not read one thing in this post that made me think “They should go to counseling and work on their communication.” I thought “This guy is major trouble.”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@KatyElle: Agreed. He’s a complete fucking headcase. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@KatyElle: I don’t get why he’s a psycho? I mean, he certainly doesn’t deal with things the best. But if he feels like she’s smothering him, that’s a valid concern.

OP – if you love him and want to make it work sit down and talk about it. Maybe you are smothering him and you just don’t realize it?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

OK – the car part was a little cray cray. But I’ve pulled diva moments like that myself.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@KatyElle:

@Mrs Grape:

I agree with you both. He sounds very dangerous and mean spirited. Life is too short to be dealing with people like that.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If he feels like you’re smothering him that is a valid concern, but the way he handled it was not right……life is only going to get more stressful as you get older and have kids, a house, etc etc, and if he can’t handle it then where does that leave you?

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

LEAVE. This guy is emotionally abusing you. The problem in this situation is not you, it’s that he’s a douche. From what you have said in this thread and the last one, he is selfish and immature. This is more than a rough patch.

Please, please, please, please give him his ring back, tell him that you deserve better than him and get the hell out. Men like this do not change. I think it’s time for you to watch out for numero uno and go find someone who actually respects you and your feelings.

Call a friend, a relative, SOMEONE and find a place to stay.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@AnneTossy: Uhhhh… were we reading the same post? Would YOU think it’s sane and rational when your fiance is crying and upset to drag her on some car ride, yell “fuck you take the ring off” then act like nothing is wrong and go home la dee da? Oh yeah, and have her believing that crying is a “victim syndrome.” Waiting around for “war days?”

He is an emotional abuser and anyone who wants to sugarcoat that isn’t doing this girl any favors.

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I seriously would leave him in a heartbeat.

You deserve soooo much more. Do not stay with him.

Post # 14
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@KatyElle: AGREED. The whole time I’m reading this I’m thinking why the hell are you with this guy. He sounds like a huge dick!

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

He sounds off the wall.  Perhaps he’s realizing what married and forever is and can’t handle it.  I can’t believe he would try to run off like that to a friends house, ask for the ring back, and tell say f**k you to you and leave you there.  What happen to talking it out…. he did anything but that.  He blamed you then ran off… not much of a talk there.  And then to act like nothing happened?  You guys cant keep doing that.. this WILL keep coming back to bite you in the ass until one day one of you cant take it anymore and just finally walks.

Sorry, but I have to ask, how old are you guys?

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Gah… I really should have known better than to repsond to a post like this.

OP, I hope you can get some help here and maybe have an “Ah-ha” moment very soon. For your emotional well being and safety as well. Everyone brings issues to a relationship, but those issues should not involve emotionally blackmailing someone you’re supposed to love and care about.

Good luck.

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