- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
So today is my 29th birthday. My boyfriend has had the ring for over a month now, but I am 100% convinced that a proposal is not coming today or anytime soon. He said he is still waiting for parts of his “plan” to come together. He has also recently asked me for my father’s cell phone and my parents’ home number, but told me he just wanted to have them and that nothing was coming soon. He has also been e-mailing me vendors for the ceremony/reception and has even talked to friends at work about them providing the live music for the ceremony. I know that these are all good signs, but in a way it kind of hurts to be “planning” without being engaged. We can’t call places and ask about availability until we are officially engaged. The place we wanted that fit our budget and our idea of “rustic elegance” (boyfriend’s exact words for what he thought we should be striving for) only had 5 available dates at the end of May, I am sure they are all gone now. I just don’t know what he is waiting for. I don’t want to pressure him, but all this talk about getting married just makes it worse in a way. I asked him to stop since I don’t want to think about it until I can actually do something, but he is still excited to tell me things that he has researched or that he talked about with his friends at work. He wants to be able to “hit the ground running” when we are engaged, but I just am not sure when that will be and frankly feel sad when researching venues that might not be available by the time he proposes. Also, I really want to have a Fall 2012 wedding like we have been discussing for over a year. Everyday that goes by I see that slipping away. My Dad has been having some health problems so, for me, Fall of 2012 is very important so I can make sure he is able to do all that he wanted to do. Boyfriend just wants to make sure we get the perfect venue and is fine with doing Fall 2013 instead. It just upsets me that he is basically making the plan to have it in 2013 by not proposing so it is not something we are discussing togeter, but a decision he is makeing on his own by not proposing in time for a 2012 wedding. He knows that Fall in New England is a popular time and that by waiting so long to start looking we are sevely limiting or eliminating many options. I guess I just don’t understand what he is waiting for if he already has the ring and has so many ideas already. I just needed to vent I guess and I know the girls in the “hive” will understand more than others.
Anyone else in a similar situation? Any advise for making this waiting easier? I have been keeping extremely busy but the constant mentions of it make it hard to forget about.