(Closed) upgrade from smaller diamond to larger diamond-like stone?

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 46
471 posts
Helper bee

I w  I wanted a larger stone too…I bought n returned likely 10 plus rings caus they seemed too small I had composite types good quality small stone ones .75 carat ones..I tried it all but was never happy long term…finally I got this set..a three carat black diamond center in platinum with blue diamond band custom made..and after 6 mo I was wanting a new one again best just face it big good diamonds are super pricey..theres mossianite etc but I could never never b happy with a stone that was not diamond. Think about what is most important to u..big or good quality…u can always buy more rings for yourself…theres lotsa bees he who just love rings. #neverdoneupgradin.

Post # 47
35 posts
  • Wedding: February 2017

Ok this definitely speaks to me. Before I got engaged my fiancé always knew I wanted a bigger diamond (well bigger for our area anyways). I told him that I would be fine with a stimulant or anything really but he knew deep down that I wanted a big white diamond. So what he did was give me a budget and said I could pick anything I wanted, but if it went over his budget any remainder would be on me (we’ve always been comfortable sharing the costs of anything and everything). In the end he knew I would be happier having a ring that I really wanted then “settling” for a ring he could afford only on his own (now I would have married this man with my old tiny promise ring he gave me in HS if that’s what he said he really wanted). So my jeweler was told what size and budget to keep an eye open for and when they got them in I went to look… It took over a month to find a diamond both of us could agree upon (he wanted better clarity then I cared about-haha good man!) but once we found the one we were both very happy and he was happy with seeing my reaction to it…

^^^ original engagement solitaire diamond with my just picked out wedding band.


So fast forward 3 years (now) and we still aren’t married but have an official date set and suddenly my jeweler gets ahold of me saying I need to go in to see what they have just gotten in… now let me explain. While my fiancé loved my original solitaire he always thought it was too warm in color/too yellow in certain light. He told me from the beginning that he planned to have us upgrade the diamond within the next 5 years to something more rare in color (more white)… So i went in to see a 3.43 carat princess cut diamond and was blown away by it! I honestly thought when my jeweler emailed me it was a typo and meant to say 2.43… Which I wouldn’t have been that excited about only because it was less then a 1/4 carat upgrade but nope haha he meant 3.43 OMG!!! Anyways, we ended up getting it and my fiancé LOVES it. He said if we kept this diamond for the rest of our lives he would be more then happy with the quality, size and with knowing how much I love it.


So the meaning behind this story of mine… You need to figure out what works for both you and your SO… Get on the same page. If he says a diamond simulant is a no no then maybe realize what is important to him… Offer to pay for part of your upgrade or consider waiting a few years to get something bigger. Above all else remember though to tell him that ring or no ring he is your other half and the one you want. As long as he knows he is all you want it won’t matter what kind of ring you prefer to wear, he will be secure in knowing even with the ring you have now or a ring pop or whatever, you are his and he is yours. 

Best of luck and know that as long as you show him you love him and make that known then it shouldn’t matter what ring you get… If you upgrade I’m sure he’ll be happy to know you are happy with your bridal set. Men are smart and want what their ladies want… You want him AND you want a larger carat stone, nothing wrong with that… Just know it may need to wait to come to life.


^^^ my upgrade solitaire and also decided on two wedding bands vs one, they are identical 1ctw/8 diamonds on each band.

Post # 48
1260 posts
Bumble bee

Comparison really is the theif of joy. You have a beautiful ring and a Fiance you love. Seems like you’re about set 🙂

Post # 49
3030 posts
Sugar bee

This is an old post.  The OP has probably got a 10 carat stone by now and maybe a divorce..

This obsession with size is due to clever marketing, celebrity endorsements and (in the US) social pressure.  Don’t fall for it.

Post # 50
28 posts
  • Wedding: January 2016

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Chaoslight: “I would feel like a selfish, greedy cow” WOW that was uncalled for. I think we can all put our honest opinion out there without being straight up RUDE.

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