Upgrade regrets?

posted 1 year ago in Rings
Post # 2
1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I have upgraded and regretted it. It took me a long time and about 4 diamonds to get back to a place where I am super happy with my ring. HOWEVER, I did it very foolishly and willy nilly. I was very naive and had this misconception that diamonds in my price range (which isn’t a lot lol) were a dime a dozen, and that is just not true. And “upgrading” can be so subjective. If I were to give any advice, it would be to actually upgrade across the board. Jot down a list, in order of importance, of what you want to accomplish with upgrading. I know you mentioned your .71 is super high quality, so I wouldn’t go below those qualities and I would stickily focus on moving up in size while keeping your high quality. Sure there is a range for everything, a shade or two of color, or with clarity if there is an inclusion that can be hidden by a prong or if going from a vvs to a nice vs or hell even a really nice SI1 (which there are a TON out there, I’ve had a few lol) but I would NOT compromise on cut. I didn’t know much about diamonds until I joined the Bee and man did I learn a lot. So with all of that said, I would definitely upgrade, I would go for it!!! You wont regret it as long as you don’t sacrifice anything major. This is so exciting. Enjoy it. Do you have a trusted local independent jeweler that you use?

Post # 3
2223 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Some of us are quite attached to our original rings as you seem to be, is there any way you can get an “anniversary ring” or simply another set? I plan to have multiple rings that I can wear and switch out depending on the day or occasion but the ring and diamond my husband proposed with will always be my engagement ring and I can’t imagine parting with it! 

Post # 4
730 posts
Busy bee

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Kylie3 :  Maybe keep your original stone and upgrade the setting to a chunky halo or 3 stone? That way if you regret it you still have your original stone. 

Post # 5
10488 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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Kylie3 : 

As I have said boringly often, l don’t believe in the concept of ‘upgrade’, the rings you get married and engaged with are THE rings. Others , more expensive or bigger or whatever are lovely of course, but they are just new rings to me .

If you get an original diamond reset, again l don’t consider it an ‘upgrade’ just a change in style. It’s kind your h. has given you free rein of course, how generous he sounds .

Post # 6
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

I upgraded and have always regreted it. Sure I got a bigger, beautiful diamond but I lost all the sentimental value attached to the original one. I would either keep the original and try to get another ring or put the original diamond in a new setting.

Post # 7
2581 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I upgraded my setting after wearing my original engagement ring (solitaire) for 3 years. I have had my upgrade (chunky halo setting) for almost 7 years now. I LOVE it and have not regretted it at all. 

Post # 8
68 posts
Worker bee

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Kylie3 :  I have never technically upgraded. The ring my fiance proposed with, when we were 18, was beautiful but we couldn’t find a wedding band to match. It was impractical and he hated the ring but got what he thought I wanted. When we were better off he got me a smaller set that resembled my mother’s and that’s what I got married with. Now he has let me pick out many other rings and they are nice too. However, I could never see actually selling either one of my original rings but have sold and purchased many other rings over the years. Even though those are the ones I use most often. If it is at all possible and something you might like; my suggestion would put your original diamond in a three setting or even a toi et moi ring with your new diamond. That way you still get the joy of upgrading without risking losing any sentimental value. 

Post # 9
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I upgraded and haven’t looked back, my orig E ring was a family ring that I love but sig O wanted upgrade to something more me, I keep the original in my locked box and wear the one I picked out, however.. if you are attached yet still wanting to upgrade, I would suggest adding to what you have now, maybe get a halo around the stone? that will give it an appearance of looking larger, or set it in a setting that has side stones to add to it! I feel like if you are already having regret at the thought of changing it completely then you shouldn’t change it completely, find a new setting for what you already have! They even have ring wraps/guards that can add to your ring without having to fuss with the current ring at all! 

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