Post # 1
Now I know that there has been posts about upgrading rings before, but I’d like to get new and updated opinions on this topic.
The other day a co-worker/friend of mine and I were talking and got on the subject of rings cause she’s always gushing over mine. Mind you, she’s has a pretty incredible ring herself, everyone absolutely loves it! Anywho, she started telling me that she had mentioned it to her hubby (that I had gotten a new ring)….(long story short, it’s new cause I had probs with old e-ring and had to return and get a new one). Her hubby tells her, “so what are you trying to tell me?…that you want a new ring?”. And she says YES!!!…lol…she said she wants a new one now cause she likes mine…lol…dork and half! I’m flattered of course and tell her that while I do love mine, I will always want an emerald cut diamond ring….never been able to afford the ones that I’ve seen and liked so the one I have now was the next best thing that I found.
She then starts telling me, “well you know you can upgrade for like an anniversary present right?…you can just trade it in and get yourself and emerald cut ring!” She said that that’s what she plans on doing and that several of her family members have done that also.
So now that I have had this spark a lightbulb in my head..I’m now wondering if my dream of having my dream ring doesn’t have to be just a dream anymore? But I still don’t know exactly where I stand on upgrading…..
sorry for the long story, but I guess my question is how do the ladies at the Bee feel about this? And if you could even point out or list pros and cons…or even tell me of your experiences if you have upgraded….Thanx a bunch!!
Post # 3
@em_panda214: You can upgrade and it’d be a wonderful anniversary present but personally, I don’t think any ring, whether its my dream ring or not, is going to mean as much as my engagement ring. But that’s just me, Fiance thinks completely different than me. He has no problems with me upgrading in the future if I ever wanted to. I think everyone is different
Post # 4
I wouldn’t personally upgrade because I’m attached now and to me it has too much sentimental value. I also love the fact that it’s a representation of what we had financially at the time. Down the road, we could be making tons of money and be able to afford nice luxuries… but like my mother said recently… “most people find other way more important things to spend their money other than jewelery… and when you have your ring for so many years that kind of material stuff just doesn’t matter anymore.” haha I’m not sure if she’s right.. maybe I’ll want a blingin’ right hand ring at some point.. but the ring that is on my finger will be there forever.
to each their own though! I have nothing against others deciding to updgrade. Some people really just view it as an object without any sentimental attachment.
Post # 5
Well I really think it depends on the couple.
I am not opposed to upgrading, but I think that’s because I saw it happening in my family growing Up. My grandfather upgraded my grandmother to a gorgeous 2 carat solitaire which she got an incredibly blingy wrap for. My mom upgraded her wedding band from plain gold to one with some decent sized diamonds on. So to me, not a huge deal to upgrade because to me it’s a symbol of your love, but it isn’t your relationship. If I lost my ring (god forbid) I would still have an awesome fiancé who loves me, tho he might be a little irritated 🙂
I recently changed my setting because I hated the feel (and look) of two rings on my fat fingers. So I went to asetting with a split shank that sort of looks like it is two rings. As for My center stone, I don’t see me changing that in the near future because there are so many better uses for 10k (I’d go with a 2+ good quality diamond) at this point in My life. If I won the lottery or something tho, different story.
But that’s just my 2 cents.
Post # 6
@Mrs.H2B: …I like the last thing you said, see…I’m finding that I don’t know if I see it just as an object or something with sentimental value. The weird thing is that I never even wanted a ring (wasn’t a jewelry person) and didn’t have one for awhile but my hubby finally made me get one, and now that I have one…Ta-Da!.. I all of sudden love jewelry now.
Post # 7
I had a .55ct diamond and recently I got a 1.02ct diamond for my early 15th anniversary prezzy….we got such an awesome deal on it that I am upgrading again to get the new diamond in a halo setting since I have wanted one since I was little and seen my first art deco piece….I say go for it if you can afford it…like I said we got a great deal on my new ring but I dont like the setting so I am gonna fix it….good luck and I hope you get what you want in the end 🙂
Post # 8
I think it is perfectly fine to upgrade. I do not know many in my real life who do, but enough time on PS and BTD has certainly taught me many women do!
I wear my own rings to honour and symbolize my commitment and marriage…they are not the actual commitment and marriage. The important part of my marriage is not the rings, and my husband and I both agree that we should wear what we like. When we were engaged and I was looking at rings, and even after I found a wedding band, my husband was already saying we could always upgrade at a vow renewal or on a trip to Dubai one day, so clearly he was all in for it before I ever even considered it!
Little different as I never had an ering originally, was not a ring person and could never figure out what I wanted before the wedding, but I have changed my rings twice since my original wedding ring. Partly due to allergies, but also hugely due to style and being on the search for the rings that were truly representative of “me” and that I was thrilled to look at everyday. Now I am finally there! I do not see changing the ones I have now ever, but I think I got it all out of the way early, too!
Post # 9
When I think of an upgrade I think of it being the same exact ring only a larger center stone. I wasn’t aware that people would get a whole different ring! I would never get a whole different ring and if I ever upgraded my main stone I’d probably keep it and get it re-set or gift it to my children. I’m very sentimental though, I still have notes from high school haha.
Post # 10
I think it definitely depends. I was given my ring with the promise of my dream ring later. Part of getting married young was that we couldnt afford what I really wanted. So, obviously I have no problem upgrading. My first ring will always be special though and I hope to give it to someone in the family 🙂
Post # 11
hmm I wouldn’t upgrade my ring. I know a few people have done it, but it’s because they didn’t have money when they got married. My Dad bought my mom a fancy new engagement ring a couple years after they got married because they were young and broke before. My mom will bring out the new ring on some holidays or a fancy event, but she still wears the “cheap peice of crap” as my father foundly refers to it lol, everyday. I thik she loves it even though it doesn’t cost as much as her much nicer blinged out ring.
As for your friend I’m surprised her Fi isn’t a tiny bit offended. I may be wrong but it seems like she just likes the style of your ring better, and plans on upgrading or changing it for the sake of it. Maybe she not sentimental about it so it doesn’t bother her.
Post # 12
I think the ring is a symbol, and I don’t see why that symbol can’t be changed. I think the relationship and the memories are what’s important.
Post # 13
@MsPoodles: good thought, I like that and very well said
Post # 14
If everyone’s ok with it, why not?
Post # 15
Well seeing as I currently have a thread going on about my ring upgrade I say it is a do. I am not sentimental in any way, hi girl who went out for pizza/wings/beer after getting engaged here. We can afford it, I want to do it, Fiance doesn’t care what I do with my ring so I’m going for it. In my case it is a completely different setting and ring as well, not a typical upgrade.
Post # 16
I don’t think it’s a “do or don’t” kind of question– I currently can’t imagine wanting to upgrade but would never think someone was bad for wanting a different ring!