(Closed) “Upgrading” the e-ring?

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d be interested in upgrading like in 30 years or something.  I feel as if our money would be better spent towards our savings, future house, kids & retirement.  Maybe after all that I’d like a bigger stone!

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

When we got engaged, I was very pleasantly surprised by the size of my ring.  I’d never discussed what carat size I wanted with my hubby, but apparently he had a budget in mind and set out to maximize what he got for his money by going to a diamond dealer in Miami.

He told me that he saw engagement rings in one of two ways, either you get a small one and plan on upgrading 5, 10 years down the road, or you go big to begin with and not worry about upgrading later.

My center stone (and only stone, because it’s a solitaire) is a little over 2 carats.  While of course it would be fabulous to have a 3 or 4 carat ring in the future, I’m sure that by the time we can afford it, we’ll have more important things to be spending money on, like a house or taking care of our family.  Plus, I do like the sentimentality of wearing the ring he proposed with forever 🙂

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have no plans to upgrade either my e-ring or my wedding band. It’s important to both me and Fiance to wear our original rings. Because of that, he designed something that I would be happy with forever. I think it’s pretty common for people to upgrade their e-rings after X number of years, but it’s not something I would be interested in doing.

Post # 20
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t think I could upgrade my ering. If he wanted to get me an anniversary ring at some point i would wear that… but i think i’d rather have some nice diamond earrings 🙂 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve said this before on the boards and it might be an unpopular opinion, but I just don’t understand all of the emotions people attach to a thing. Thats really all it is, a thing.  I love my FH and he loves me, we are thrilled to be spending the rest of our lives together.  The ring that he gave me is a symbol that I am engaged, not a symbol of our love.  And if I did think of it as a symbol of our love, love grows over time, so why shouldn’t your ring?

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@Nightmaiden: just had to tell you that i LOVE your current set. Like seriously— it is amazingly beautiful. I wouldn’t change a thing if I were you!

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I went with FH to look at E-rings and I was so surprised that everytime we looked at a ring the sales people would say, “you can always upgrade later” I don’t think theres anything wrong with it, my mom has had like 5 rings in the 30 years they’ve been married, but personally I want the same ring for the rest of my life. He can buy me all the bling he wants for my other hand but my e-ring will stay the same.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t upgrade but I also don’t attach that much emotion to it.

I love it as is and don’t see the point of upgrading.  I’m happy to get more jewelry.  I wouldn’t upgrade any of my other jewelry – I would just get new pieces if I wanted/could afford it.  I don’t know why erings get upgraded.  It is what it is.  Everything else is IMO not an engagement ring but a diamond ring.  Nothing wrong with that – I’ve zero problem with people wearing whatever they want to symbolise whatever they want.  But to me its a definition thing – an engagement ring is the ring you wear to symbolise that you’re engaged.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I will someday.  Not so much as an upgrade, since I have over a carat and think it’s perfectly fine, but because it’s an heirloom diamond that I will pass along to someone else eventually.  I will get a different diamond when our future son or daughter takes this one, hopefully I can keep the same or very similar setting.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I honestly would upgrade eventually if Darling Husband had gotten me a smaller engagement ring. But I see no need to upgrade my current ring, I honestly wouldn’t want it to be any bigger than it is. I don’t stay at home and I don’t have a maid, I take the subway and work full time so I think my ring totally fits my lifestyle. Plus it’s perfectly proportionate to our incomes and I get weird when people wear a diamond bigger than them if you know what I mean. Like, what are you trying to prove? And wouldn’t that $ have been better used as a down payment?

I am thinking of changing the setting, but only because it’s currently set too high (I am the one to blame for that since I picked it out). I might look at some settings with pave diamonds or something, but no major upgrade.

Post # 27
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

i have no plans to upgrade. I do want to get a nice sparkly wedding band, and i anticipate wearing just the wedding band sometimes at work and not the e-ring after we are married anyway. I work in a hospital and sometimes my e-ring gets caught on things, and im not a big jewlery person anyway.

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I will be upgrading.

I think I’ve decided to wear my band for the next few years, until we have some extra cash, then go out and get a beautiful ring that I love.  It will probably be similar to my engagement ring, but a little fanicer.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I adore my ring, so I would never trade in the diamond or band for a bigger or different one.  FI knew what I wanted, and he went and picked out one bigger and more sparkley than I imagined I would get!  I’m very sentimental, so I would feel like I was giving up something meaningful.  I won’t oppose to some nice diamond earings though, in lieu of upgrading my ring!!

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I wouldn’t want a new ring entirely, but I think both FH and I would like to upgrade the center stone. We shopped for rings together and ran into a snafu. The style I loved was outside of his budget. So we found a compromise which I love and I love him for helping us find it. My ring isn’t brand new… it was a private sale back to a jeweler. In order to get this style, that was what we had to do. Also, because we didn’t build it from scratch, the center stone is smaller and lower quality than either of us would like.

The bottom line is that I love my ring and I love my FH. But 5 or 10 years after we’re married I’d love a high quality, slightly larger center stone. That way all the symbolism of my ring is intact, and it can finally be what we both meant it to be all along.

Post # 31
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Thank you, CorgiTales. Mine would only be to upgrade the metal not the stone as well. Since the one I have now is a little over 3 carats and the platinum one is a little over 2 carats, it isn’t really an upgrading the stone as much as upgrading the metal for my allergy. I will switch between them so I’m not putting one over the other. But that is also because of my allergy. Plus, and I think this is the big thing, hubby loves to do things to surprise me and he admits he wants to spoil me. And if he sees something that he likes, he’ll buy it. We are saving the money little by little but we have 2 years til our renewal so hopefully the renovations on the house will be done by then. But we don’t have a house payment or morgage since my house is paid off.

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