(Closed) “Upgrading” the e-ring?

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
Post # 32
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

i agree with you, for sentinmental reasons I can’t picture changing it. it’s 1 carat. i’m keeping it. for one thing,  I don’t need bigger one, and for another, I love the ring he proposed with. it means something to me to retain the same ring.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think I’d ever want to change mine either… But who knows, maybe 30 years from now I’ll feel differently.  I certainly can’t see myself changing it within the next 10-15 years.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I picked out AND paid for my first e-ring after we got engaged, since I proposed, Fiance was unemployed, and I had savings.  FI said he’d pay me back for it once he got a steady job, but it turned out that I discovered my initial ring (an enormous pear-cut sapphire with halo and pave diamonds on a thin white gold band) was so, so not the right choice for my e-ring for so many reasons.  That’s why this summer, after much, much searching, I had a ring custom made in yellow gold.  It is essentially a reproduction of an antique ring I found on some esoteric website, with some slight tweaking.  It’s beautiful, and I love it, but because we spent so much on our initial e-rings (also, we’re students!), the stones in it are Moissanite.  I love Moissanite, and think it is a great, beautiful stone, but the diamond industry has got us all brainwashed, and I don’t know if lab-created stones will ever be seen as fit to become heirlooms.  So, one day, when we are much better off financially than we are now, I’d love  to replace it with some nearly flawless, ethically mined diamonds so it can legitimately become an heirloom (I would have LOVED to receive an heirloom ring!  I think they are usually beautiful and of course very emotionally special).  The band is gorgeous, and is made out of the bands of my mother’s two previous e-rings (each time she lost her diamonds cause she’s a klutz, my dad just went out and bought her entirely new rings).  I wouldn’t ever want to “upgrade” the band.  It is perfectly me and custom made.  But the stones? Yes, I would.  I would keep the Moissanite, if they are still in good condition, and have them added to some other jewelry, maybe a necklace.

Just my take.

Post # 36
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166 posts
Blushing bee

I recently upgraded my engagement ring and absolutely love it.  My husband has always said that he wanted to get a larger stone for it.  I always refused as this is the ring he gave me and I love it.  Well, that is until my mom showed me some jewelry she inherited from her mom.  My grandmother’s original engagement ring was in the jewelry bag that she brought out.  She asked me if I wanted it and I jumped on the opportunity.  So, I went from a 1/3 carat to a  1 carat diamond.  Had it not been my grandmothers diamond I would have not changed the diamond out.  Now my ring has 2 special meanings, one for my husband and one for my grandmother.   I plan to use my old diamond to make another piece of jewelry.

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2003

I hear what everyone is saying… it really is different for each person. For me, we upgraded my original Engagement Ring to commemorate our 10 year anniversary. My husband was a little apprehensive when I brought it up a year ago (he was initially hurt, thinking that I was nver happy with my original E-ring– which is NOT true!) until I explained to him what I wanted to do. I wanted to take my beautiful 1.5ct round stone and add a halo which symbolizes my husband and add two pave bands to symbolize our two kids.  It’s so hard because feelings are involved sometimes.

just got this today, so is am all over Wedding Bee! Good luck if you are thinking about an upgrade!



 

 

 

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I understand why people might want to upgrade, but for me I never will, for multiple reasons.

– Fiance had the ring deigned epically for me,and he would be really hurt if I wanted to change it.

– The stone belonged my my late Mother-In-Law so it has a lot of sentimental value.

– I really love my ring, and I’ve actually never seen anything else that I like better.

– it’s my engagement ring and any other ring wouldn’t be!

– I have small fingers, and I think this stone (1.23 carats) is probably at the upper limit of what would unit me anyway.

– I’m just not a blingy kinda girl. My ring is simple and elegant with a twist, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

 

But I was lucky to get my perfect ring straight off, so I don’t judge anyone who wants to change.

Post # 40
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727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Amreit:  Love it! That’s what mine would look like with 2 infinity bands

(drools)

Post # 40
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Wannabee

I just got this new e ring from my fi because my real one was getting to big for my finnger so he got this bigger one but now I dont know it is like it or what to do if I sould wear this one or risk losing the real one this one does not feel like me I don’t know what is the best what do you think I sould rather do?

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