(Closed) Upgrading your Engagement ring

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 18
4394 posts
Honey bee

I have no problems with upgrades. I have no idea if I will want one ever, but I wouldn’t mind having a few different options and keeping my original ring always. For example, I would love a big eternity band someday, or maybe a pink gem but I would very likely not trade in my original  engagement ring for anything else. 

Post # 20
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Kriddlelouise:  In not against it. But I feel like my FI’s feelings would be hurt.. I’ve only had my engagement ring for slightly over 1 year. I truthfully would like a larger center stone, but don’t want to ask. I don’t like asking for things, especially if I think he may be offended (knowing my FI). I don’t think all men would be offended. I just know his view on money. However, I do think down the road, like 5 or 10 years he would go for it. But if I ask too soon it’s like ‘so have you not liked the ring all along?

” if you get what I mean. My Fiance is super proud of his choice, which is why I feel guilty even wanting a bigger stone. But it’s like, I love my diamond and how it sparKles!! Of course I want a bigger one lol, more sparkLe! 

Ahh: ramble! 

Post # 21
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Not to sound like a smug jerkface or anything, but I love my ring, and It’s already far more baller than I am! So no upgrades in this house! I have a moissy and that’s just what I wanted, and the size I wanted! But I would never judge anyone for wanting to upgrade theirs, I know many people who got engaged in univirsity ( ie: were brooke ass) and after they started makin a little more money they got a nicer/bigger ring.

Post # 22
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My husband has always wanted to upgrade my ring when we first got engaged, only cause he just started his job, but once I got my wedding bands I was happy with my set…but my husband kept his word and 8 months into our marriage he got a bigger center stone…I am sad that I don’t have the original center diamond, my husband still picked out the new upgrade stone, so it is still meaningful to me…I would not want any more upgrades cause my ring looks huge on me (I have small fingers 4.25) anything bigger than what I have would be enormous! But who knows what my husband has in store for me in the future lol


Post # 23
726 posts
Busy bee

@Brielle:  I got half through that sentence and went “aww” then read the rest and loled!

Post # 24
846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I wouldn’t upgrade for several reasons. For one thing I adore my ring, and its already a good size – I have slim fingers and if it was any bigger it would be too big.


But the main reason is that it has too much sentimental value attached. The stone belonged to my late mother in law and was given to Fiance way his sister with the specific intention to make it into a ring for me. Fiance spent several months designing the ring with the help of his sister and the jeweller, and had it made specially for me. He put so much effort into making sure this ring perfect for me. And I don’t plan to have another fiancée so I don’t want any other ring but the ring he gave me. Everytime I see the ring it reminds me of how much he loves me and that is worth more than any diamond.

Post # 25
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

i didn’t really upgrade per se. I got a 2nd ring, which was a different cut and slightly bigger.

The cut of my cushion really bugged me as it didn’t sparkle like it’s supposed to. So DH agreed to get my a princess cut with better specs. Love it!

Post # 27
5521 posts
Bee Keeper

@Kriddlelouise:  I’m ‘upgrading’ at the moment, but, I don’t really see it as upgrading, as the size and style of the ring are being copied pretty much exactly, with a few necessary adjustments.

In our case, I fell in love with a ring, and my OH bought it; but after having it for about a year I realised I wasn’t happy with having a white gold engagement ring for life, and decided to upgrade to platinum. The diamonds specs also aren’t good, so, I’m also getting new diamonds, with better cut/clarity/colour.

For me, it’s a case of us rushing into something without doing our research; however, because the ring is so unique, we’d had to have bought it anyway to have it copied even if we’d decided to go with platinum from the off, so, we’re not really ‘down’ any money.

I could never change the style of the ring though; I love it too much, and going for a bigger centre stone or whatever just doesn’t appeal to me personally.

Post # 28
48 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Brielle:  Same here!

He did mention that if we come into money and want to show off I can get a kick ass RHR. 🙂

Post # 29
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Kriddlelouise:  im getting an upgrade before the wedding and im super duper excited!! 

the reason for the upgrade was that my Father-In-Law were actually the onces who ppurchased the ring for my Fiance to propose. He was a fulltime student with zero income and was going to propose with our 6 year old promise ring – my fmil felt he should propose with a nicer ring.

what i have now is a quad princess cut – which i didnt like, but appreciate and grateful for becuase it is a reflection of what his family felt about me too. my fi knew that it wasnt my taste, so now he’s got some sort of income, he’s saving up for the ring I want (=

Post # 30
36 posts
  • Wedding: December 2014

Yes. I am committed to the man, not the diamond. I’ve upgraded already once, and will probably upgrade again in 5-10 years. If you like to upgrade/can see yourself upgrading, make sure the jeweler you buy from has a great upgrade policy (ours is you just pay the difference, does not need to be double–thank goodness!)

I really don’t wear much jewelry other than my wedding ring/e-ring, we have no children (nor are really planning to) so to splurge on upgrading is alright. However, I know many women are attached to the sentimental value of their first diamond, so by all means, only upgrade if you’re comfortable with it. 

Post # 31
50 posts
Worker bee

My mother offered my FFI her Center stone after we had already chosen our ring. So we took the original ring and her stone to the jeweller’s and we created a custom using both. 🙂

so I’ve had an upgrade but we aren’t officially engaged yet! Hahaha

new is pic 1 and original is pic 2 🙂

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