(Closed) Upgrading your Engagement ring

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
6263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I say maybe. However, my Fiance did express that he wouldnt like it if I upgraded so I probably wouldn’t.

Post # 33
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I upgraded after being engaged for about a month ago. Fiance was fine with it. He said it’s completely my choice what I wear for an engagement ring, but he did have some say in the new ring and my previous ring. He has never been good at picking jewelry for me so he always asks for my input.

Old ring:

New ring:

Some other options I tried (winner is in both pictures):

Post # 35
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Tsuki56:  I am CRAZY about your new ring! If I had to get another ring, I think is choose one that looks like yours. So beautiful and elegant!

Post # 36
50 posts
Worker bee

@LMD84:  thank you so much! I loved the original but DANG this new girl sparkles!

Post # 37
2973 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

i have a 1.05 ct round brilliant solitaire (D color, SI2 clarity, ideal cut). i wear a size 6 so it looks proportionately appealing.


i would like to upgrade the stone to 1.3 ct round brilliant (E color, VS1 clarity, ideal cut). i’m in no rush to do so. i really love my ring as-is. this upgrade is reserved for a significant wedding anniversary like 10 years or something. 

Post # 38
5317 posts
Bee Keeper

No, I definitely would not. This is the engagement ring. Like Napoleon’s ring to Josephine, it is the actual, the original. Anything else would not have the same symbolism, it wouldn’t be an “upgrade” even if it cost more.

However, I’d always appreciate new jewelry for my other fingers, wrists, neck, and ears… ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 39
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@ceebree:  I have that ring with a surprise diamond under it and I adore it!!!! Sooo much sparkle ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 40
4 posts
  • Wedding: July 2012

I love my engagement ring I would not change it but I am not against others changing theirs. My husband designed my ring completely from scratch. He searched and searched but couldn’t find anything he liked so he worked with a custom jeweler.  I am so happy he did it is a one of a kind ring that I love. 

Post # 41
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am nor passing judgment at all, but I just cant imagine giving up the actual ring he proposed with! There is just to much sentimental value wrapped up in it for us. It’s not large and the specs are not bragable..but its still my favorite thing in the universe ( besides him of course)!

Post # 42
7865 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

When we were married, my DH had not yet really started his career. Three months worth of his salary would have been a gumball ring, and we were focused on the marriage and not the wedding/ring. We struggled and made our way, never depending on anyone else, and we are now at an entirely different place in life. We have three children with plans to send them to college in a few more years, and we aren’t wealthy, but are comfortable. 

My upgrade at 15 years is simply a reflection of where we are in life today. I did not trade in the old ring; I still have it and would never give it up. But it was as much fun and as exciting for him as it was for me to get me the new ring. We bought it and then took a cruise afterwards (I wondered whether to bring my ring along, and discovered while on board that my ring was nice, but nowhere near worth stealing if a person were looking around!). 

It doesn’t diminish the sentiment attached to the original ring or the marriage itself. If you had asked me 15 years ago if I would ever consider upgrading my ring, I would’ve looked at you like you had three heads, but things change over time. I am grateful for my original ring, the man I’m with and the life we’ve built, and the ring I have now that symbolizes the changes in our lives.

Post # 43
2453 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not planning on upgrading my ring ๐Ÿ™‚

I had a say in what I wanted it to be, so it’s exactly what I wanted. center stone carat size was a non-issue for me.

I do want to look into getting a right hand anniversary band at 10 years.

Post # 44
7414 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Kriddlelouise:  I personally would never upgrade my e-ring.  I may get a NEW ring in the future (although I don’t see that happening, I love my e-ring).  To me, my engagement ring is the ring my FH put on my hand when he asked me to marry him – I don’t want to change that ring – ever (granted, I picked it out in the first place).


I always thought it was interesting that Candy Spelling (wife of the late Aaron Spelling) never changed her original e-ring that he bought her before they were loaded.  Yes, she got lots of great new rings and jewels but she always kept, and often wore, the original ring (so i’ve read)

Post # 45
2590 posts
Sugar bee

@Kriddlelouise:  Oh no!  Either it will show up, or it was meant to be!  (hopefully it shows up though ๐Ÿ™‚

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