(Closed) Upgrading your Engagement ring

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 77
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I upgraded, even though I picked out the first ring, I was too excited and just choose the first one I liked and then had remorse about a month later. It didn’t look like an engagement ring (to me) and made me feel like I was a little kid playing engagement if that made sense. So I went with something that looks very much the same because I loved the style but just with a little more BANG to it. My husband wasn’t thrilled at first but then went with the its your hand its what makes you happy.


The first ring (the wedding band on this is fake, it’s a place holder until our vow renewal, big wedding thing we have upcoming in july): 




AHH I love it so much



Post # 78
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

@shootznladrz89:  I can totally relate! I feel like my first engagment right was like I was playing engagment. Like it’s totally not something that I see my future self wearing. It was kind of “kid-ish.” 


So yeah, we are upgrading. When Fiance bought my ring we were suuuper broke. It only cost $400, but that seemed like a million bucks to us at the time. I picked it because it was something I liked the best out of what limited options I had. Also, at the time we were engaged our relationship wasn’t very healthy. She and I probably shouldn’t have gotten engaged when we did. We’ve come a looong way since then and we are completely different people. The ring is a reminder to the both of us that negitave time in our life. (The ring that I currently have, sorry it’s so huge)



Post # 79
2953 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Kriddlelouise:  If my ring was smaller than I’d like and it never grew on me with regard to sentimentality, yes. I do not plan to upgrade at any point because I enjoy my ring just like it is.

Post # 80
2766 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I will never sell/trade in my engagement ring, but I would love to get another 🙂

I have a round brilliant in a solitaire with intricate pave basket, but I’d love to have an asscher or emerald cut in an onstentatious carat weight (3+ anyone?!) on a thin pave band. My FH doesn’t have a problem with ring upgrades, but he doesn’t get why I’d want to always keep my little 1 carat original e-ring. If we do uprade in 10 or so years, I’d have to make the case for not trading in my current set.

Post # 81
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I can’t say what I might want in the future, but I’m pretty sentimental. My stone is a sapphire, pretty dainty, but it’s the ring the love of my life picked for me and presented to me on one knee. I can appreciate all of the pretty jewelry everyone has here, but I think I’d rather have an anniversary band or something, instead of “upgrading.”

Post # 82
2585 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

I have already upgraded twice

First ring:

H color, I1,  .75 center, not sure of cut:

Second ring 1.16 princess G color, I2, good cut…looked huge but the inclusions really botherd me though


Final set: VS2, G color, celebration modified square cut 1.02, and different band


Post # 83
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m conflicted on this one. I don’t love my ring(he refused to let me help pick it out the ring but he put a lot of thought into it). I feel over time it would grow sentimental and I would not want and upgrade.

Also, I think my fiance would be hurt if I said I wanted an upgrade. If he put it on the idea on the table though I would be extremely happy.

Post # 84
11 posts

I would love an upgrade someday and my fiance is all for it if the money is ever right. In fact, originally he was the one who introduced the idea.  However, I absolutely adore my setting, it was made for the specifications of my center stone so I can’t put a larger stone in. So side grade maybe, to one something with better specs. 

Post # 85
1916 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t care what others do with their rings, but I don’t know if I’d personally upgrade my e-ring. I could however see upgrading wedding bands to anniversary bands and such. But then again, I have a pretty standard solitaire, so I can swap several bands for a totally different look without committing to resetting the stone. 

Everyone’s circumstances for upgrades are different. For example, if my promise ring would’ve been given an upgraded name to “e-ring” I would probably be looking for an upgrade to the ring later on. However, I was fortunate enough to receive a different ring for my e-ring and don’t see the need to upgrade my e-ring. 

Post # 86
48 posts

@Tsuki56:  Do you know the specs on your new diamond? I know I’ll be getting my FMIL’s pear e-ring, and it might be similar to yours. 🙂

Post # 87
869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I have a 1.02 carat, Very Good Cut, F color, SI2 (which was eye clean) diamond.

But my Fiance upgraded it (he wanted to do it before the wedding as a wedding gift!! Also helps that Blue Nile is excellent and easy with upgrades).

And we ordered a 1.51 carat, Excellent Cut, E color, SI1 diamond!! Can’t wait until it comess. 

Post # 87
7 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

im not sure if i wanna call it “upgrading” my e-ring, but since im a very sentimental person, i dont wanna get rid of my original e-ring, so i might just ask the hubberz to get me another one…

i want to get either a moissanite or a morganite ring that is about 2-2.5 carats…i mean its cheaper than a 2ct diamond, right??

this is my current ring and i love it, because he picked it:20150501_113932

but i want this one now, 

 morganite or moissy, but this style…

Post # 88
1226 posts
Bumble bee

I haven’t done a trade-in type of upgrade but I did ‘repurpose’ my first round brilliant(from 2nd engagement ring) as half of a set of stud earrings. I used the garnet(from my first offical engagement ring) for a pendant.

I lost the only ring I cared about (a ‘new, old-stock’ deco wedding band that I loooved) but the others I’m just not/haven’t been that attached to. I really like my current set but if we could easily afford it, I’d trade up in a sec. *shrug*

Post # 89
419 posts
Helper bee

I would never “upgrade” – in terms of diamond size etc, but I would like to own different options in terms of stone shape and design. So would I have more than one ring? Yes. Would I consider any other ring an “upgrade”? No.

Post # 90
552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014


Weeeell, my (now) hubby did upgrade my setting – the one he proposed with (on the left) wasn’t what we had looked at, so he called it my placeholder setting because the other wouldn’t have come in (they had to special order it) in time for when he wanted to propose. the ‘upgraded’ setting is on the right and it finally came a few months after our engagement. my diamond stayed the same and i LOVE it. TBH though, i would love to upgrade someday down the line and keep the original diamond for a pendant but i’m thinking he maaay not love that idea considering what the diamond i have now cost, and how much more it’d be to upgrade from scratch without the trade-in value hahaha. he’s also a major emotional attachment kinda guy ‘it’s the diamond i proposed with’, whereas i’m not really that way, although i’d want to keep the setting the same. weird, huh?

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