You know, I admire the ladies who say ‘I will never ever upgrade my ring, It’s a gift from my partner, he chose it specifically for me, it’s a token of our relationship, it’s sentimental, irreplacable’ etc. I admire and understand every single one of those statements. I think about my grandmother who has just celebrated 60 years with my pops and still wears the same slim gold band, and small ruby engagement ring he gave her so many years ago. Back in their day no one would dream of upgrading and I think it’s a beautiful sentiment.
However, I also admire the ladies who say, ‘my tastes have changed, or, now we can afford something bigger/better quality, more reflective of our situation now, or simply, thank you for choosing something for me but as I’m the one that will be wearing it, I would like to pick something myself’. I think that that takes balls, and honesty and is to also be applauded. The rings we wear on our wedding finger are important, I dont care what anyone says, they are. They are likely to be the most special or in some cases, expensive pieves of jewellery we will ever own and they are there to make you happy. Yes they are symbols of our relationships, or our marriages, but then so are our wedding certificates! These are pieces of jewellery that should make us smile. And if that entails changing them, then I honestly think we should speak up and go for it if that is what will make you happy.
Personally, I changed my engagement ring/commitment ring a bunch of times. I just couldnt agree on a setting, or find something that I would like forever. i really pressured myself to choose something FOREVER. And that made me anxious and lead me to make snap decisions. Luckily, I spoke up and have been honest with my husband throughout the whole process and have been supported in my decision to change the settings. For me personally it was never about the size of the stone, my new ring set still has my original diamond, but that’s my personal choice. For me it was all about the setting, the look, the style of the jewellery that I couldnt decide on. The actual ring he officially proposed to me with was one he chose himself based on something I described. And…..shock horror…..we ended up selling it. Yes. A horrible thing to do lol! And I know I had to convince him at the start to do it. But the fact of teh matter is, the ring was a bunch of trouble from start to finish (cracked shank, 3 re-sizings, damaged stone, bent claws, they ended up telling me to just keep it in a box and not wear it – how about no?!) and I ended up feeling absolutely no sentimentality about it whatsoever. Mr D understood that. We sold it and put the money towards our matching wedding bands which now mean so much more to him 🙂
The one thing I would never change is my wedding band. But again, that’s personal choice and I understand other ladies doing this very thing. To make sure I didnt want to ever change it we went for very plain, simple bands, so they werent particularly fahsionable or trendy and didnt really ‘say’ anything about our style so there was nothing really to change.
I dont really understand how we can slag off each others’ jewellery choices to be honest. At the end of the day, they are our own personal choices becauase we;re all different people. Would I love to be more like my gran who never even dreamed of changing what pops bought her? yes, i would as i think its lovely. But I’m not and I’m not going to feel bad about that. At the end of the day,
your ring = your choice